The Etiquette of Texting – PattiKnows, Patti Stanger
Much like how wij speak, how wij text is very significant when building a relationship with someone. Our culture texts so much that it is only natural to wonder how texting is affecting us and our relationships, it’s a concept totally worthy of analysis and discussion. The prevalence of texting ter our society naturally begets the question: how is texting effecting our day-to-day interactions and relationships?
Te the actual world it is common to be worried with how wij are being perceived when wij meet someone and get to know them primarily, our society puts a lotsbestemming of weight into this idea of a ‘first impression’.
With such an emphasis on how others perceive us te a face-to-face interaction, I’m astonished wij don’t give the same emphasis and thought to our online interactions and very first impressions.
Wij seem very preoccupied with making sure wij look the part and play that volmaakt social role when very first getting to know someone so that wij can project the best possible pic of ourselves out into the world. With such an emphasis on how others perceive us ter a face-to-face interaction, I’m astonished wij don’t give the same emphasis and thought to our online interactions and very first impressions. Actually, it seems spil tho’ wij don’t think much about our online interactions, which truly effect and form our verdadero life offline relationships. Wij never zekering to think about how our texting etiquette or lack there of, is effecting the relationships wij form and grow. Like te face-to-face interactions, texting and the social media field ter universal absolutely leaves life-long lasting very first impressions and sets voortdurend boundaries and guidelines te our relationships. Let’s pauze down the golden rules and etiquette of texting:
A text is a prelude to a conversation, not the conversation itself
When texting with your fresh boo, or even a fresh friend you meet, it’s indeed significant to make sure you’re asking all the right questions and getting to know them intimately, very first ter person rather than through texting. Texting with your fresh boo should be a follow-up conversation to your face-to-face interaction. If you’re not talking to your fresh fellow on the phone or ter person but rather are sending him paragraph-long texts asking him questions you should have asked te person, this is bad etiquette and not what texting should be used for. Ter person interactions should make up the majority of the delivery of our messages, not text! Keep your texts brief and sweet (under 160 characters) anything more you should pick up the phone and call them or meet them te person to speak. Moreover, it’s best to keep texts brief and sweet anyways because so much can be lost ter translation when texting, so it’s always better to say anything that is not mundane, te person.
Let him text you very first
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, making the dude initiate is crucial to your relationships ter person and is no different te the social media and texting field. Don’t ask mij why, but it’s just always better to let him initiate the text. Much like ter actual life, the female expects the stud to initiate the very first dance, the very first smooch, to propose marriage, etc. The texting/social media area is no different. Assuming he got your number very first, wait for him to initiate your very first texting conversation. Certainly don’t be one of those damsels who makes the very first budge, that’s never lovely and you’re making it much too effortless for him by doing this. Recall guys like to hunt why would texting be any different? Let him win you overheen.
Assuming he got your number very first, wait for him to initiate your very first texting conversation.
Merienda he has initiated a text with you, now this is your cue to make the ‘first impression’ and te a way, truly set guidelines on how you expect to be treated for your fresh relationship with this person. Things such spil your response timing, how many words you use and your overall conversational rhythm when texting someone fresh can indeed play into your dynamic with them and can literally set the tone for the entire relationship. If you are one of those chicks who responds too often, too much and too needy, this presents an undertone of ‘desperation’ and can result ter lost rente. On the other arm, if you’re one of those damsels who plays flakey games, only texting spil an option, this can place him ter the ribete zone and stunt your growth with him. Guys like to pursue you but if you’re throating him off and demonstrating that you have better options, this could ongemak any spark you two had together.
The Rules of Response
Ok when it comes to responding to a text message he sent you, there is a fine line inbetween playing it cool and looking too cool/ being responsive and being needy. When he texts you very first you always react, unless you’re not into him anymore then feel free to disregard them J. Wij are all busy but wij make time for the things that are significant to us, so if this person is a priority you will find the time to response their texts and vice versa- if he’s not responding to your texts, he’s just not that into you. Moreover, if he is taking two days or so to get back to a text message, he is setting the tempo and you literally are given the same amount of time to get back to him and no one can get mad.
There is a fine line inbetween playing it cool and looking too cool/ being responsive and being needy.
This works on the roll side too, if you are playing the two day spel with him then you are setting the tempo and he has every right to take the same amount of time to get back to you. Please note that if he is playing the two-day spel with you, never react instantaneously, make him wait female friend! Lastly, if you texted him more than merienda te a row without a response then he’s just not that into you, and vice versa, if you don’t text him after he has texted you a duo of times or more, you are telling you’re just not that into him and setting a fresh tempo ter your dynamic.
Know when is it suitable to start intimate texting such spil sending photos and sexting
Proximity is something that should be left for te person relations, but when you have to do it overheen text, you do it sparingly and with someone you haven’t just met. If you get too intimate too soon this can quickly deteriorate a fresh relationship because it turns the dynamic into purely sexual rather than emotional. Intimate texting should only be done if the man has initiated the proximity with you very first. For example, if you met a stud out at a party and all you two did wasgoed talk about sports, you wouldn’t send him a ‘sext’ zometeen because you have not bot intimate ter person yet. You vereiste make sure the intimity is initiated (by him very first) ter person before any sexting or intimate texts toebijten inbetween you two.