My Online Dating Success Story, HuffPost

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Now that I think about it, I had no idea what I wasgoed getting myself into when I very first signed up for online dating.

It wasgoed 2012 and I wasgoed single, recently out of the toilet, and.. about to budge back to my suburban hometown after collegium graduation. Te terms of an ideal setting for meeting other gay women, this wasgoed, well, the precies opposite.

I wasgoed at the point ter my life where I wasgoed truly my own best friend. I felt entire on my own, but I knew that I wasgoed ready to share my life with someone — if I met the right someone.

“I live life to a soundtrack ter my head.” My life switched forever when I read those nine words, only I didn’t know it at the time.

Okay.. I kleuter of knew. Is it crazy to say that? Is it crazy to say that I wasgoed so captivated by the opening line of someone’s dating profile that I actually had the tiniest inkling my life wasgoed about to switch?

But let mij backtrack a bit. Let mij rewind about six months to a night where I found myself bored and nosey and.. logging onto Match.com.

Like I said, I wasgoed pretty naive about the entire online dating thing, and for some reason wasgoed under the false impression that Match.com suggested free trials. (Hectare!) I packed out my profile and uploaded some pictures “just to see what’s out there,” but when it took mij to the payment pagina, I closed the browser and never logged back on. I wasgoed still te collegium, so I wasn’t quiebro ready to pay for a dating webpagina yet.

I didn’t even think about deleting the profile I’d made because — false impression #Two — I thought that without a payment, nobody would be able to see it.

One of my friends met hier gf on OkCupid and wasgoed attempting to woo mij to sign up. All of a sudden, it dawned on mij: while there were slew of openly gay women on my collegium campus, ter just a few months, I would no longer be living on that collegium campus.

Unnecessary to say, I created an OkCupid account shortly thereafter.

I knew what I wasgoed looking for te my next relationship, and I didn’t feel the need to lodge. I didn’t expect to meet someone online right away, but I figured it couldn’t hurt to go on a few dates. At the very least, I could see what wasgoed out there, meet some interesting people, and have some joy.

Overheen the next few months, I met and dated a few indeed inolvidable women. There were the positive moments — feeling butterflies for the very first time ter awhile, hilarious conversations after long nights, trips to Pride and gay kroegen and suspending out with one woman’s phat group of gay friends.

But of course, there were the not-so-great moments — the messages unanswered, the time I got indeed linked to someone and got hurt, and the time someone got truly affixed to mij and I had to end it because I didn’t reciprocate hier feelings.

Ter the end, however, thesis were all just practices that made mij that much more ready to meet the right someone.

That someone, spil it turns out, lives life to a soundtrack te hier head — just like mij.

And te an example of what I can only call serendipity, that someone also happened to have a Match.com account six months earlier.

Jessi told mij on our third date that when I messaged hier on OkCupid, she instantaneously recognized mij spil “that bitch that never answered mij on Match.com.”

I guess all those emails with the subject line: “She winked at you!” or “She messaged you!” weren’t just ploys to get mij to pay for an account, after all — tho’ that’s what I thought when I routinely deleted them without reading.

Speaking of online dating naivete, Jessi had never heard of OkCupid until the summer of 2012, when she read about it te Cosmo. She had just cancelled hier Match.com account and sworn off dating until October, after hier own series of dating ups and downs. But curiosity got the best of hier, and she created an OkCupid account — honestly believing she would never loom on again. (Or at least not until October when hier dating cleanse wasgoed overheen.)

The next morning, she woke up to an email — my message.

Now that I think about it, I had no idea what I wasgoed getting myself into when I very first signed up for online dating.

But two years straks, spil I write this from the apartment that Jessi and I call huis, I know that attempting something I had no idea about turned out to be the best idea I everzwijn had.

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