Wait for third one and only then write back.

Aug 1, 2002 12:55 PM EDT The Early Voorstelling

By Tatiana Morales / CBS

Carousel Walter Cronkite CBS Authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider turned the dating world upside down with their 1995 welslagen “The Rules,” telling women that they needed to play hard to get to reel ter Mr. Right.

Te their fresh book, “The Rules For Online Dating,” they apply their relationship advice to cyberspace providing a list of do’s and don’ts for successful rekentuig romances. They visit The Early Showcase to talk about it.

The title of their book explains its entire premise: “The Rules for Online Dating: Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right te Cyberspace.”

Among the questions they address are:

All rules are based on three premises: A man voorwaarde primarily feel a spark for a woman, the man vereiste pursue the woman, and all fellows love a challenge.

Here are their “Rules For Online Dating,”

  1. Don’t reaction boys’s ads or email them very first. – Answering a man’s ad is to pursue a man, it’s no different from approaching a man at a party or a tapkast, calling him, and asking him out. He knows you like him and the party is overheen. If he does end up dating you, you’ll never know if he’s dating you because it’s effortless and convenient for him or because he’s truly crazy about you.
  2. Create a good screen name. – Pick one that is not boring but not too sexy, not too ho-hum but not too marriage minded. Do not go to the other extreme either and attract a man who is just interested te hookup. Strive for something te the middle. Be descriptive.


  • Less is more when writing your ad. – When answering the questionaires an online Web webpagina requires, give the impression that you just threw some answers down with a adorable picture on your way to the gym or work. After all you are very busy. And, do not reaction questions that you would not response on a very first date. Mistakes: Women who say they are looking for love or marriage or who are willing to relocate, women who postbode more than one ad on the same web webpagina (desperate), women who postbode three or four photos te the same ad,eWomen who write long answers that have a Hallmark touch to them.
  • Postbode a smiling photo. – Studs don’t concentrate on what you write spil long spil they like your photo. Don’t use anything too provocative.
  • For the women who don’t want someone to know about their fresh hobby: get overheen it and waterput up your picture, it’s truly not a big overeenkomst.

  • Wait 24 hours to react.
  • Don’t response on weekends or holidays
  • Write light and breezy Emails. – Do not react to a man who sends his profile or photo only. If an email comes with no photo, react “Would love to see a photo. Thanks.” That’s it, nothing else. If he turns down to send a picture, there is a reason. When he does send the picture, if you like it, reaction with a: “Thanks!” no “Nice six pack” or “Lovely Pic”. Don’t tell him that you read his ad. Do not react to anything that wasgoed ter the ad, such spil i.e. my brother is also an registeraccountant.
  • Never Email a man a 2nd time if he neglected to react to your Email. If you get an angry Email that says he wants more than three lines ter an email from you, press DELETE and refer to rule #13.
  • For the very first three months, don’t initiate an Email, only react. if he sends you jokes and “did I tell you how nice you are?” notes, do not react. Wait for third one and only then write back.
  • Block yourself from Instant Messages.
  • Don’t volunteer your phone number very first.
  • If he doesn’t ask you out within four Emails, Delete/Next
  • Screen out Mr. Wrong
  • Don’t waste your time on time-wasters
  • Don’t force the relationship from Email to phone
  • Waterput safety very first
  • Don’t ad-interrogate on dates
  • This is the fourth “Rules” book. The others are:

    • “The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right”
    • “The Rules II: More Rules to Live and Love by”
    • “The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work”

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