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Guest Post: Why We Choose Love

Last week, my wife (who is universally regarded as a hard act to follow) used this space and provided an insightful, touching, and thoughtful portrait of the last part of our first year of marriage. We’ve had some hurdles already – I’m not sure I’ve ever had as much asked of me emotionally, physically and mentally as I did for four weeks in March and April.

She wrote that our marriage is successful in part because I am kind, generous and loving. It’s true – I am ;) Or at least I try very hard to be. But she is too – to an extent that I could probably never be, and she makes me a better person because of it. A person better able Continue reading

Guest Post: I Knew He Was “The One” When…

Sometimes life just throws you some curve balls, so I called in a few relief pitchers for your enjoyment over the next few weeks. A beautiful gift in my inbox, today’s post reminded me of how truly inspiring my friends are. I hope you enjoy this post by Courtney C. as much as I did…

How I knew he was the one:

My dad always used to tell me he wouldn’t pass judgment on the men I chose, because “when you think you’re in love, you’re in love.”  So true, but you can absolutely be “in love” with someone who doesn’t make a good partner for you.  And no matter how much you love that person, or even how much they love you back, it still doesn’t make it a good, healthy relationship.

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Is This Love That I’m Feeling?

Love, lust, infatuation, crush? What’s the difference…really? The media debates this love or lust story every day. From the 8 year relationship Waitie Katie endures to the latest of Hef’s blonde conquests… some may wonder, is it love or lust or perhaps a bit of both?

Granted, it’s all individual because who can really tell what’s in someone else’s heart? Maybe Hef really does love rather than lust after his latest blonde bombshell. That aside, I asked an expert for her opinion on how to tell if you’re in love or blinded by lust and she summed it up like this:

“Lust (or infatuation) is all about how YOU make ME feel. It’s inherently selfish in that its about getting instead of giving. Love is the opposite. It’s about giving instead of being focused on what you are getting.”

Do you agree?

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What Do You Do With A Bad Kisser?

Let’s set the stage…you’re excited. You waited to kiss her until the 3rd date since you really really like her and wanted to build a little anticipation. After a great night of flirting, little touches, laughter and lingering glances into a very interested second party’s seductively soft green eyes, you quite simply can not WAIT to get to the evening’s finale. The big moment comes at the front door when she tilts her face up to yours… you lean in for the kiss and… Continue reading

A Great Way To Wreck Your Relationship

I read a great post today from a single dad blogger. Alternately cajoling, berating, encouraging and leading by example, Single Dad Laughing reminded men that they have a hand in the erosion of women’s body-image confidence. He points out that even the most self-confident of women can’t help but notice when her man “stops and looks” at another women. Whether magazine, movie or live action version… men look. Women notice. Continue reading

Romance is Dead! Or Not?

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A group of us went to the John Mayer concert the other night. Now, before you judge, he did thank us all for defending him to all the people who call him D*bag and resolutely protecting his honor that he’s not all that bad. And then launched into one of his more famous D*Bag tunes. I’ll admit… it did make me laugh. And I like his music.

On the way home, we were talking about how hard it is to find current music that sends the “romance” message. We literally puzzled over who our modern troubadours are and couldn’t think of anyone really hitting the scene with a truly romantic song. Can you think of any great romantic artists of the last ten years?  Continue reading

When Does The “Woo” End?

My friend Roxanne ran into a very interesting dilemma over the weekend. Her boyfriend informed her that he found opening doors for her “exhausting and annoying.” Of course, I had to comment on the blog post she wrote about it and was a bit tongue in cheek when I said, “To me, that he ever opened the door for you in the first place shows that he knew its something that would “woo” you… so why does he want to stop “wooing” you? Is he of the opinion that you are not worth the “woo” anymore?”

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Looking For The Romantic But Missing The Love

It occurred to me over the weekend, that some people may find planning (in and of itself) very romantic. In the very nature of what they are communicating (that they want to be with you,) they are giving you much more romance than a handful of flowers, surprise tickets to the game or a candle lit dinner. In fact, I think a lot of guys wonder why in the world their girl keeps wondering how he feels about her when he keeps showing it by making plans to be with her (the 5 Love Languages concept.)

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He’s Looking for a Partner More Than a Playmate: How to write an online profile attracting guys in their 30′s and early 40′s

Picking up where we left off,  guys in the 30-45ish range still need adventure, but their focus has shifted more towards building. They want to build their career. They want to build their skill levels. They want to build their relationships. They are focused on creating the framework in which their future will rest.

This guy is all about finding a quality girl who can help him with that process. Continue reading

Are You Sabotaging Romance by Waiting for It?

My favorite question to ask any happily coupled person? How did you meet?

Ever since the seeing the opening and closing montages in “When Harry Met Sally,” I’ve been fascinated by people’s love stories. And where better to start than at the very beginning? The fateful first meeting. Perhaps it’s the romantic in me who wants to know more about the endless possibilities of love or the practical single looking for new ways to meet my Mr. Right. Whatever the reason, the stories have just been getting better and better in the past few weeks. Continue reading