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How To Write An Online Profile

Posted on February 17, 2011 | 4 Comments

For most online dating sites, there are two predominant factors in how a potential dater perceives you. The pictures you post and what you write. If you are a complete novice or just scared of online dating, I posted an article on basic red flags and navigation tactics that you might want to check out. For everyone else, some quick tips on standing out from your competition… Continue reading →

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The V-Day Countdown: Celebrating Change

Posted on January 18, 2011 | 5 Comments

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. In fact, normally I don’t even mention this Hallmark occasion until a day or two before it happens. The first year, I grudgingly posted on how to make V-Day less of a dooms day if you happened to be a guy dating a more successful girl. Last year, I re-posted one of my favorite posts about what I love about men.

But this year, I’ve decided to use the month leading up to V-Day to not only give fair warning for those of you who need a heads up that it’s coming, but to examine all of the things men AND women have to be grateful for whether you are single, dating, married or some combination of the three. I figure that remembering all the ways we are grateful might help mitigate all the ways V-Day can really grate on the wrong nerves.

So, today I want to be grateful for change. Yep, I said it… the dreaded “C” word. Change. Whether you get the shudders just reading that word or wistful thoughts about all the things you’d like to change, here are some thoughts for remembering why change is a great thing for your romantic life…

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How to Avoid the “Crazy Chick”

Posted on January 12, 2011 | 13 Comments

Confusing, man-eating, delicate flowers… yes, I know. Navigating the world of women when you are firmly in the Y chromosome category pose challenges that test the courage of many a man-child. Some men are lucky/smart enough to get a gal pal or two to decode the mysteries. Some men cannily do the research… things like reading good blogs on dating and mating in America or even getting a dating coach. But some poor sods continue to mope over a beer with the guys and bewail recent blunders, innocent mistakes and in short, continuing to make the same mistake again and again. Attracting the crazies.

I decided to crack the door on Pandora’s Box here and give you some tips that may or may not help you navigate away from the man-eating crazy flowers and find a woman who makes your toes curl. In a good way. Continue reading →

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Let’s Talk Body Language

Posted on January 10, 2011 | 29 Comments

We’ve all been there…the date where you just missed the cues… She wanted you to kiss her and you shook her hand instead. He wanted to be anywhere but there and you couldn’t stop telling that story about your grandmother’s teacup poodle. When you forget to pay attention to your audience… you run the risk of being “that” date living on your date’s oral tradition of crazy date stories.

How to avoid missing the details within the big picture? Pay attention to the non-verbal cues. She may say yes to date #2, but is she really going to answer your call? Continue reading →

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By The Way, What Do You Think About Me?

Posted on December 22, 2010 | 4 Comments

As defined by the Mayo Clinic, narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.

I guess the standards police for the DSM-V took a look around and decided that this behavior was common place enough to not be considered a “disorder” anymore. The New York Times recently reported that  Narcissism has been removed from the personality disorder spectrum.

I don’t know about you, but as alarming as I find it that narcissistic behavior no longer falls into the “disorder” category, it doesn’t surprise me all that much. Just take a look at a few of the more common tools we use these days to connect with potential dates… Continue reading →

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What Do You Do With A Bad Kisser?

Posted on November 29, 2010 | 23 Comments

Let’s set the stage…you’re excited. You waited to kiss her until the 3rd date since you really really like her and wanted to build a little anticipation. After a great night of flirting, little touches, laughter and lingering glances into a very interested second party’s seductively soft green eyes, you quite simply can not WAIT to get to the evening’s finale. The big moment comes at the front door when she tilts her face up to yours… you lean in for the kiss and… Continue reading →

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Why Eye Contact May Save Your Relationship

Posted on November 18, 2010 | 12 Comments

Picture this. You spend quite a lot of time with your partner. In fact, you see him/her every night or just about. You may be married, living together or dating but whatever the label, your significant other is the person you spend the most time with in the world.

Now imagine, you go to dinner one night and your partner leans in to tell you something VERY serious. She pushes her plate out-of-the-way and leans in, looking you eye to eye and says ” I feel like we don’t spend any quality time together.”

There is a moment of disbelief and then you think… she’s kidding… right? Continue reading →

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Desperately Seeking Average

Posted on November 17, 2010 | 20 Comments

My apologies to anyone who considers themselves “average.” Please know that I completely respect your goals and dreams in life…be they average or … well, ok, I admit it… I’m lying when I say that. I have a hard time respecting “average” as a life goal. Why?

I have an aversion to the word “average” being applied to people. (It’s similar to my abhorrence of the word “normal” but that is a completely different blog topic.) It baffled me the other day when a friend of mine said “I’m just an average guy looking for Continue reading →

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Step Away From The Phone and No One Will Get Hurt

Posted on November 2, 2010 | 2 Comments

“Closeness depends upon this rapidly disappearing phenomenon of undivided attention spread over time,” says Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist and co-author of Married to Distraction. Just think how hard it is to complete a work project amid a stream of interruptions, he says.

“What you give up at work is depth. And what you give up in relationships is intimacy,” Hallowell says.

Hallowell advises clients to quash their Pavlovian response. Go to lunch, take in a nice dinner, and turn the BlackBerry off. Therapist Fritsch tells couples to show each other the same respect they’d give their boss. Continue reading →

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I Was Just Kidding!

Posted on October 11, 2010 | 2 Comments

I grew up in a family of zingers. We zinged at fork point for emphasis. We zinged going up stairs. We zinged while driving in cars. We zinged while sitting in chairs.

All in all, we had a zinging good time. And then I went to college in the South (capitalized on purpose.) Quickly established my zinging skills and just as quickly found myself in a shrinking circle of friends. Being the astute social observer that I can be, I shut up. I sat back. I started really listening. I learned that zinging is NOT considered high wit in the South. In fact, it’s widely considered in poor taste by most Southern Gents and Belles to purposely make someone else appear foolish in front of their peers. (Unless you are adding “Bless her heart” to the end of your statement… but that is another story entirely.)

I had to stop zinging? Really? Continue reading →

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