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What Are You Using To Bait Your Hook?

Posted on June 7, 2011 | 5 Comments

I’ve long been of the opinion that what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” that certain someone. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ve seen me write about it before.

Last week, I was listening to a truly awesome sermon series by Andy Stanley and he expanded on that premise. He was talking about the commoditization of women and how prevalent it is in our culture today. He first made us all laugh by bringing up the fact that every time a dude comes up with a cult idea it includes some divine reason that he needs to have sex Continue reading →

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The Friend Zone Test

Posted on May 25, 2011 | 5 Comments

Alas… you suspect that you may be in the friend zone. And like Survivor, if you landed in the Zone, you’ll need to OutWit, OutLast and OutPlay your competition in order to get out of the zone.

Three Quick Tips to shortcut the Friend Zone:

  1. Be Firm (Don’t let the other person push you into the friend zone if you don’t want to be there.)
  2. Be Direct (If you want something more than a friendship, say so.)
  3. Don’t Linger (If you figure out that you’re in the friend zone with no likelihood of escape… redirect your time and energy to a more receptive candidate.)

This test is purely for determining whether or not you are in the Zone. If you choose to stay in the Zone, that is entirely up to you. (But really… if you insist that the Friend Zone is fine with you, then why are you taking this test?)

The Friend Zone Test

All answers are multiple choice. Pick one answer that best describes your situation. Continue reading →

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Advice to a Bride on Keeping Her Marriage Alive

Posted on May 19, 2011 | 6 Comments

I went to a lingerie shower over the weekend for one of my favorite people. She is getting married this summer and all of her home girls gathered together for a little spa and bra kind of day. One of our “assignments” was to write her our best piece of advice and read it to her as she opened her presents.

Here are some of the pieces of advice that were given (see if you can guess which one was mine *grin*)

  1. Always give your husband a passionate kiss as he walks out the door for work in the morning. It reminds him what he’s coming home to that night.
  2. Don’t quit having kinky sex!
  3. Love your life.
  4. If you’re having a disagreement or argument, hold each others hands and look into each others eyes. It’s amazing how hard it is to say things you can never take back when you’re doing that.
  5. Don’t go to bed angry.
  6. Record the great memories of your first few years of marriage. There are days in the future when you’ll need the reminders.
  7. Take the time to tell each other what you love about the other person.
  8. The best gift you can give your guy is a great steak dinner followed by a blow job.
  9. Know that when you have kids, you’ll be too tired to have sex. So have lots of it now.
  10. Have fun together!

Do you have any tips to add for the engaged couples out there?

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Guest Post: House Flipper… Relationship Fixer

Posted on May 11, 2011 | 1 Comment

Thanks to one of my fellow bloggers for this guest post. It’s a good thing to learn… that dating to change someone thing… no bueno. Enjoy!

I’m a flipper. A house flipper that is. It’s what I do. I see a diamond in the rough and imagine it with a little spit and polish. Perhaps some new tiles and nice stainless steel appliances. A new roof and trimming up the trees. Ripping out carpet and refinishing some old wood floors.

Yes, I love the process. Making all the decisions to really create a new home for a young family or perhaps a newly married couple. It can really be fun. But to be honest, I like the smaller flips in up and coming neighborhoods. You know why? Well, typically I can get the best bang for my buck on the re-sale. I fix the cosmetic, look for houses that don’t need structural fixes and get really really excited about selling the house and cashing in. Then, I move on to the next.

Why am I telling you all of this? Well, last year, I realized that I’ve been flipping relationships. Sound familiar? Continue reading →

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Guest Post: Why We Choose Love

Posted on April 26, 2011 | 2 Comments

Last week, my wife (who is universally regarded as a hard act to follow) used this space and provided an insightful, touching, and thoughtful portrait of the last part of our first year of marriage. We’ve had some hurdles already – I’m not sure I’ve ever had as much asked of me emotionally, physically and mentally as I did for four weeks in March and April.

She wrote that our marriage is successful in part because I am kind, generous and loving. It’s true – I am ;) Or at least I try very hard to be. But she is too – to an extent that I could probably never be, and she makes me a better person because of it. A person better able Continue reading →

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Guest Post: I Knew He Was “The One” When…

Posted on April 19, 2011 | 7 Comments

Sometimes life just throws you some curve balls, so I called in a few relief pitchers for your enjoyment over the next few weeks. A beautiful gift in my inbox, today’s post reminded me of how truly inspiring my friends are. I hope you enjoy this post by Courtney C. as much as I did…

How I knew he was the one:

My dad always used to tell me he wouldn’t pass judgment on the men I chose, because “when you think you’re in love, you’re in love.”  So true, but you can absolutely be “in love” with someone who doesn’t make a good partner for you.  And no matter how much you love that person, or even how much they love you back, it still doesn’t make it a good, healthy relationship.

I knew J was “the one” when … Continue reading →

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How to Know If You’re The “Other” Woman/Man

Posted on April 14, 2011 | Leave a comment

Opinions are all over the map when it comes to how much responsibility the “other woman” (or man) has for being in an affair. For essentially providing the outlet for the cheater to cheat. I’ll go on record as saying that I think the “other” woman or man has just as much responsibility as the cheater. There are always reasons and excuses and it’s easy to attempt a dodge in responsibility, but the fact of the matter is… if you know the person you are with is cheating on their significant other, then you are choosing to be with a cheater and essentially give them permission to do the exact same thing to you.

That being said, let’s assume that you are beginning to suspect that you may be the “other” and that is NOT ok with you… here are some rules of thumb for spotting a cheater: Continue reading →

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Top 10 Online Dating Lessons from “The Princess Bride”

Posted on March 23, 2011 | 8 Comments

Lesson #1: You don’t have to start out as a prince or princess to find true love.

Lesson #2: That being said, true love doesn’t happen everyday so be ready for it when you do find it!

Lesson #3: It’s easier to be ready for true love when you know what you want. So, like Inigo Montoya… Continue reading →

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Getting Rid of a Toxic Ex

Posted on March 8, 2011 | 6 Comments

Let’s say you are in a happy relationship. Everything is going along swimmingly. Well, everything except for one little issue. There is an ex that just won’t go away. They’ve been asked politely. They’ve been asked not so politely. You’ve heard promises and threats that they never EVER want to talk to you or hear your name again… but you don’t hold your breath because they call… text… email and IM time and time again. It’s a become a problem. An embarrassment. Something you passionately wish would just go away.

And just to be clear right up front, I don’t believe that ALL exes are a problem. I know that some of you do believe that exes aren’t meant to be friends while others of you are friends with all of your exes and take pride in that. Either way, whatever works for you. But this article IS about dealing with the ex that becomes toxic and how to save your relationship from the potential fall out. Continue reading →

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Is This Love That I’m Feeling?

Posted on March 3, 2011 | 25 Comments

Love, lust, infatuation, crush? What’s the difference…really? The media debates this love or lust story every day. From the 8 year relationship Waitie Katie endures to the latest of Hef’s blonde conquests… some may wonder, is it love or lust or perhaps a bit of both?

Granted, it’s all individual because who can really tell what’s in someone else’s heart? Maybe Hef really does love rather than lust after his latest blonde bombshell. That aside, I asked an expert for her opinion on how to tell if you’re in love or blinded by lust and she summed it up like this:

“Lust (or infatuation) is all about how YOU make ME feel. It’s inherently selfish in that its about getting instead of giving. Love is the opposite. It’s about giving instead of being focused on what you are getting.”

Do you agree?

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