Recently an intriguing site linked to one of my articles… allwomenstalk.com. At first I thought it read “All women’s talk” and thought… well, I can see the connection there and clicked over. But my interpretation wasn’t quite on the money. The title actually reads “All women stalk.”
Ok, so you have to admit, that’s funny. And while I realize the site is not, in fact, about stalking (as in the illegal kind) I started to wonder… is it true? Do all women stalk? Continue reading
Have you noticed that online dating has become more and more like a trip to the store with a list of items you want? Tall and with hair. Check. Young and perky. Check. Wants children. Check. I’m as guilty as the next person of having a few items that are deal-breakers, but I’ve tried to avoid the shopping list mentality because I’ve seen a really detrimental attitude spring from it… that people are disposable.
A friend recently shared the analogy of online dating being like a trip to the grocery store with a bargain hunter mentality. Pick up one can at the beginning of the aisle and put it into the cart only to drop it off a few steps later for a different brand at a cheaper price. Repeat the process ad nauseum, trading out one “item” for another and ignoring the fact that the cheaper one might leave you with heartburn and indigestion or that you’ve discarded several really good cans of beans along the way.
I think he’s right on the money in his analogy, but how can we avoid treating each other as disposables in the process of trying to find a match? I mean, it’s not like we can date everyone we meet for the rest of our lives. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Online Dating
Tagged commitment, Dating, dealbreakers, disposable mentality, honesty, life, love, men, online dating, patterns, respect, women
As always… my friends provide the most interesting topics. This one is a guy’s point of view on flirting via emoticons and conTEXTual innuendos…
Text Flirting by Kyle Nowakowski
Since the majority of communication is non-verbal, I think we have to be especially cautious when flirting (or avoiding flirtation) via emails and texts. If someone is having a conversation with a person they are interested in, it’s natural for the person to try and pick up on cues that he/she sends, and vice versa, whether it be during a conversation the two are having in person or writing each other via email. The problem with trying to pick up cues via email is that you don’t have a lot of options to send someone via email to show that you’re interested. And if you do want to send some cues, you usually have to make them blatantly obvious. For example, “That was a great book recommendation. Thanks 
” versus “That was a great book recommendation. Thanks 
“
To me, a dude, Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, communication, Dating, Etiquette, Online Dating
Tagged communication, email, flirting, guy POV, men, online dating, texting, textversations, winks, women
Top 5 Turn Ons
1. We love it when we can tell you read our profile. Yes, it’s fine that you noticed the picture first. We do too. But we love it when you mention something in your email that points to you having obviously read what we wrote as well.
2. There is something innately sexy about a confident initiator. The aww-shucks approach about having a friend write your profile or you not being used to this method of dating doesn’t really go as far as a guy who obviously knows online dating isn’t ideal but hey, we’re both here and you’re going to make the most of it by finding our sexy selves online and starting the pursuit.
3. If we think you’re hot, Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Online Dating
Tagged attraction, Dating, dealbreakers, honesty, Humor, lies, looks, match.com, men, online dating, Pictures, profile, romance, self esteem, sex, truth, turn offs, turn ons, women
Earlier this week, I talked about “fattitude” holding you back. Today’s post is all about what happens when you let go of the fattitude and are ready for the next step… going out on dates without your attitude weighing you down.
Men and women are both falling under the weight restriction requirements of our culture these days. Fashion designers have determined that women must be a size 0-4 in order to be considered “beautiful” (and “plus size” is anything over a size 10) and men are supposed to have ripped abs, a gun show and thick hair even into their 60′s. Unfortunately for the other 90% of the population, some of those things weren’t even possible in our early 20′s.
What pop culture doesn’t emphasize is that there are many men and women out there who could care less about weight, hair follicles or ab ripplage. A good guy friend of mine pleaded with me to cover the fact that not every guy looks at women
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date, Online Dating
Tagged attitude, attraction, body language, curves, Dating, dealbreakers, fattitude, life, love, men, online dating, overweight, relationships, self esteem, size, skinny, weight, women
If you’ve been looking for a new way to increase your holiday dating options or find some profile inspiration, OK Cupid is offering to let you see and vote on their best in show when it comes to Who Has The Best Online Profile. According to Simone Grant, one of the main blogstresses promoting the contest, it’s, “intended to show off the smart, attractive, diverse and very dateable people who are currently using OkCupid.”
In case you’re looking for a refresher on what makes a profile memorable, I’ve written a bit about this topic in the past.
The contest runs from October 20, 2009, to November 30, 2009. Winners will be announced on December 2, 2009. All contest participants will be automatically enrolled in a sweepstakes for $250 cash. If you’re entering your profile… may the voting be with you and let us know so we can log in and vote on your profile too!
More and more dating questions are being dropped in my lap by friends and readers via private email that I thought might be interesting to the public at large… so this post snapshots some recent questions and answers in a broad stroke. Granted… I don’t know your full situation (no one really does) and circumstances can dictate some exceptions to the rule, but here are some general guidelines for solving common dating problems, myths and frustrations.
Q: Should I give them another chance? They say they’ve “fixed” what they did wrong. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Online Dating, Relationship Advice
Tagged advice, calling a guy, change, clingy, Dating, exclusivity, first date, life, match.com, men, online dating, online profile, potential, questions, relationships, women
In light of the fact that online dating sites like Match.com are reporting a record number of members, I thought a quick re-cap of what not to do on your online dating profile would be in order:
1. Be Fun! Cynical, pessimistic and skeptical only come across as attractive to like minded folks and the CIA. Listing off what you don’t want only taunts those very people to email you and tell you either (a) why they aren’t that person or (b) why there is nothing wrong with being one of the points on your list. Go with mom’s old axiom here… “If you don’t have anything nice to say… don’t say anything at all.”
2. Speaking of mom…if you’re puzzling on profile picture selection, ask your opposite sex friends for feedback first. After all, mom’s not really your target market. Find out what picture they think not only resembles you but best shows your personality and makes you look H.O.T. (If your “friend” picks a picture with any of #3′s points, ditch said “friend” from your advice pool. ASAP!)
3. On the topic of pictures. The SO NOT HOT list includes the following:
“So, I got this INSANE email from some girl claiming to be his girlfriend on Facebook today…”
Raise your hand if you or a friend have started off a story like that since entering the world of social media. (OK, you can put your hand down now… your co-workers might be wondering…) A guy friend of mine recently told me about some girl who is mad at him for breaking up with her and is contacting every new person he “friends,” telling them that he’s a womanizer with herpes.
And lest you think it’s all crazy chicks, Continue reading
Posted in communication, Culture, Dating, Etiquette, Online Dating, Relationship Advice
Tagged Breaking up, cheating, communication, Culture, Dating, define the relationship, Facebook, friend, friends, life, love, men, myspace, online dating, public, relationship status, relationships, respect, social media, wall, women
According to a survey released by ING Direct on Monday, (don’t ask me why an international bank would be asking questions about romance on a survey… but anyway…) this recession is breaking American hearts. Apparently, we are weathering the storm less gracefully than our romantically inclined counterparts in other countries.
Survey says Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Breaking up, Culture, Dating, Keeping a Date
Tagged America, Breaking up, business journal, Canada, Culture, dealbreakers, economy, France, Germany, gratitude, Humor, ING survey, life, love, marriage, men, online dating, relationships, stress, women
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