I’ve long been of the opinion that what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” that certain someone. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ve seen me write about it before.
Last week, I was listening to a truly awesome sermon series by Andy Stanley and he expanded on that premise. He was talking about the commoditization of women and how prevalent it is in our culture today. He first made us all laugh by bringing up the fact that every time a dude comes up with a cult idea it includes some divine reason that he needs to have sex Continue reading
Lesson #1: You don’t have to start out as a prince or princess to find true love.
Lesson #2: That being said, true love doesn’t happen everyday so be ready for it when you do find it!
Lesson #3: It’s easier to be ready for true love when you know what you want. So, like Inigo Montoya… Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Humor, Online Dating
Tagged Dating, Inigo Montoya, love, match.com, online dating, Princess Bride quotes, relationships, Top 10, true love
As defined by the Mayo Clinic, narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
I guess the standards police for the DSM-V took a look around and decided that this behavior was common place enough to not be considered a “disorder” anymore. The New York Times recently reported that Narcissism has been removed from the personality disorder spectrum.
I don’t know about you, but as alarming as I find it that narcissistic behavior no longer falls into the “disorder” category, it doesn’t surprise me all that much. Just take a look at a few of the more common tools we use these days to connect with potential dates… Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Dating, Humor, Online Dating
Tagged bad dates, date, Facebook, match.com, narcissism, narcissists, obsession, online dating, relationships, selfish
A quick tip for the online daters:
Re-read your profile and ask yourself the following: Am I describing the relationship I want or the person I want?
I’d recommend describing the relationship you want and here’s why… Continue reading
A friend sent me an article today titled “The Top 10 Places To Meet Single Men Or Women.” The usual roster ensued… work, school, mutual friends, bar, etc. No surprises there. But it did get me thinking.
You all know I’ve been interviewing singles and asking invasive, personal relationship questions for years, but my all time favorite question ever is “How did you meet?” I ask new couples, I ask married people, I ask divorced people. I even ask people how their parents met. Pretty much, I ask everyone how they met the person they are with, were with or whatever.
My informal poll has revealed the following information… there are really only three ways people meet a potential love interest.
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Online Dating
Tagged Dating, friends, interests, marriage, match.com, meet new people, miracles, online dating
These guys in their 20′s and early 30′s are looking for adventure, fun and a challenge. They live life in the present and tend to be very passionate about interests, dating and life in general. Talking about “settling down” will not only be the kiss of death in your online profile, it will also be met with resistance or even blank stares when out on a date.
Not all guys in this age range fit into this “stage,” so you may be surprised by a few who start talking babies and marriage. But for the most part, if you write a profile targeting this stage, you’ll attract guys in this time of life. Alison Armstrong calls it the “Knight” stage. (For a broad overview, check out the first post in this series.)
How to focus your online profile to attract this guy’s attention: Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Dating, Finding a Date, Online Dating
Tagged 20's, adventure, Alison Armstrong, fun, knights, match.com, online dating, profile writing
My favorite question to ask any happily coupled person? How did you meet?
Ever since the seeing the opening and closing montages in “When Harry Met Sally,” I’ve been fascinated by people’s love stories. And where better to start than at the very beginning? The fateful first meeting. Perhaps it’s the romantic in me who wants to know more about the endless possibilities of love or the practical single looking for new ways to meet my Mr. Right. Whatever the reason, the stories have just been getting better and better in the past few weeks. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Personal
Tagged attitude, first meetings, love stories, magic, match.com, Mr. Right, online dating, romance
Recently an intriguing site linked to one of my articles… allwomenstalk.com. At first I thought it read “All women’s talk” and thought… well, I can see the connection there and clicked over. But my interpretation wasn’t quite on the money. The title actually reads “All women stalk.”
Ok, so you have to admit, that’s funny. And while I realize the site is not, in fact, about stalking (as in the illegal kind) I started to wonder… is it true? Do all women stalk? Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Dating, Finding a Date, Humor, Keeping a Date, Online Dating, poll
Tagged America, Culture, Dating, Facebook, Google, hunting, lies, life, LinkedIn, match.com, men, myspace, online dating, stalking, truth, Twitter, women
Top 5 Turn Ons
1. We love it when we can tell you read our profile. Yes, it’s fine that you noticed the picture first. We do too. But we love it when you mention something in your email that points to you having obviously read what we wrote as well.
2. There is something innately sexy about a confident initiator. The aww-shucks approach about having a friend write your profile or you not being used to this method of dating doesn’t really go as far as a guy who obviously knows online dating isn’t ideal but hey, we’re both here and you’re going to make the most of it by finding our sexy selves online and starting the pursuit.
3. If we think you’re hot, Continue reading
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Tagged attraction, Dating, dealbreakers, honesty, Humor, lies, looks, match.com, men, online dating, Pictures, profile, romance, self esteem, sex, truth, turn offs, turn ons, women
I’ve been asked time and time again, so here it is. My worst date ever.
It all started off one innocent day on Match.com where I was desultorily perusing new matches and saw a pair of nice eyes smiling back to me from an out of state match. At the time, I wasn’t that interested in dating out-of-state, but his email opened with the tidbit that he was moving to my town in 2 weeks. Well, ok then. I’ll take a look. The profile: seemingly normal, nice guy looking for love. The pictures: nice. Not great, not bad, but nice enough. Red Flags? Hummm… not really. Email? No emoticon abuse, better than average grammar, reference to something I said in my profile and a non-cheesy compliment.
He wrote back asking for a date when he was in town the next week.
Due to the number of emails I was averaging per contact, at the time, I decided to go ahead and skip all the back and forth and just meet the guy to see if there was any chemistry. I set the date at a little tex-mex place known for it’s great food if you can deal with the terrible service. I knew it’d be fairly empty for a mid-week, late lunch.
The week goes by with a few back and forth emails and the day arrives. I get to the restaurant and immediately spot Mr. Match. He looked like his pictures. Thumbs up!
That was the last positive thought I had for the next three hours. Continue reading