I went to a lingerie shower over the weekend for one of my favorite people. She is getting married this summer and all of her home girls gathered together for a little spa and bra kind of day. One of our “assignments” was to write her our best piece of advice and read it to her as she opened her presents.
Here are some of the pieces of advice that were given (see if you can guess which one was mine *grin*)
- Always give your husband a passionate kiss as he walks out the door for work in the morning. It reminds him what he’s coming home to that night.
- Don’t quit having kinky sex!
- Love your life.
- If you’re having a disagreement or argument, hold each others hands and look into each others eyes. It’s amazing how hard it is to say things you can never take back when you’re doing that.
- Don’t go to bed angry.
- Record the great memories of your first few years of marriage. There are days in the future when you’ll need the reminders.
- Take the time to tell each other what you love about the other person.
- The best gift you can give your guy is a great steak dinner followed by a blow job.
- Know that when you have kids, you’ll be too tired to have sex. So have lots of it now.
- Have fun together!
Do you have any tips to add for the engaged couples out there?
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Tagged blow job, Engagement, love, marriage, men, relationships, respect, tips, women
Last week, my wife (who is universally regarded as a hard act to follow) used this space and provided an insightful, touching, and thoughtful portrait of the last part of our first year of marriage. We’ve had some hurdles already – I’m not sure I’ve ever had as much asked of me emotionally, physically and mentally as I did for four weeks in March and April.
She wrote that our marriage is successful in part because I am kind, generous and loving. It’s true – I am Or at least I try very hard to be. But she is too – to an extent that I could probably never be, and she makes me a better person because of it. A person better able Continue reading
Sometimes life just throws you some curve balls, so I called in a few relief pitchers for your enjoyment over the next few weeks. A beautiful gift in my inbox, today’s post reminded me of how truly inspiring my friends are. I hope you enjoy this post by Courtney C. as much as I did…
How I knew he was the one:
My dad always used to tell me he wouldn’t pass judgment on the men I chose, because “when you think you’re in love, you’re in love.” So true, but you can absolutely be “in love” with someone who doesn’t make a good partner for you. And no matter how much you love that person, or even how much they love you back, it still doesn’t make it a good, healthy relationship.
I knew J was “the one” when … Continue reading
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Tagged advice, cancer, Guest Post, Intimate relationship, love, marriage, relationships, romance, selfless
Opinions are all over the map when it comes to how much responsibility the “other woman” (or man) has for being in an affair. For essentially providing the outlet for the cheater to cheat. I’ll go on record as saying that I think the “other” woman or man has just as much responsibility as the cheater. There are always reasons and excuses and it’s easy to attempt a dodge in responsibility, but the fact of the matter is… if you know the person you are with is cheating on their significant other, then you are choosing to be with a cheater and essentially give them permission to do the exact same thing to you.
That being said, let’s assume that you are beginning to suspect that you may be the “other” and that is NOT ok with you… here are some rules of thumb for spotting a cheater: Continue reading
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Tagged cheaters, friends, lies, life, love, marriage, men, relationships, the other woman, women
Love, lust, infatuation, crush? What’s the difference…really? The media debates this love or lust story every day. From the 8 year relationship Waitie Katie endures to the latest of Hef’s blonde conquests… some may wonder, is it love or lust or perhaps a bit of both?
Granted, it’s all individual because who can really tell what’s in someone else’s heart? Maybe Hef really does love rather than lust after his latest blonde bombshell. That aside, I asked an expert for her opinion on how to tell if you’re in love or blinded by lust and she summed it up like this:
“Lust (or infatuation) is all about how YOU make ME feel. It’s inherently selfish in that its about getting instead of giving. Love is the opposite. It’s about giving instead of being focused on what you are getting.”
Do you agree?
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Tagged giving, life, love, lust, marriage, relationship, relationships, romance
If you’re a female anywhere between the ages of 20-45, you very likely just weathered the storms of the Christmas engagement season. If you’re single, you watch as scores of your friends post pictures of pretty little sparklers and smushy face pictures with their new fiancée and think… “One day…” or “Suckahs!” (depending on your opinion of marriage.) But, if you’re dating and were somewhat expecting to receive a ring over the holidays, you’re likely avoiding Facebook, family and friend’s phone calls, TV commercials, malls and the like in an effort to control your emotions and expectations.
So, you made it through the engagement season with no ring on your finger. Now what? Continue reading
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Tagged Brad Womack, christmas, Christmas and holiday season, Dating, disappointment, Engagement, expectations, Facebook, Hugh Hefner, intentions, marriage, New Years Eve, trust, Valentine's Day
How are your resolutions going? Honestly, I’m not usually a resolute New Years celebrator. I’ve always believed in actively changing what needs changing when it needs changing instead of waiting for the 1st day of a new year. But this year, I had some learning to do. I discovered… “Relationship Goals.” (dunh dunh dunnnnnh)
Hunh. Never really had those before. My boyfriend convinced me that relationship goals were in order. So, we’re in the midst of sorting out what’s mine, his and OURS as far as changes that we intend to embrace. It’s been an interesting week. I’ll leave it at that. But today, we seem to have some clear goals on the table and no one killed anyone else, so I think we’re doing pretty well. Continue reading
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Tagged attitude, compassion, Dating, goal setting, gym, love, marriage, new year resolutions, patience, respect, rewards
I’m seeing a lot of articles again about how marriage is dead. Dying. Kaput. Dinosauric. I’ll admit, you see stats like this:
According to the Pew survey, 39 percent of Americans say marriage is becoming obsolete. And that sentiment follows U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.
You may begin to wonder if “THEY” are right. Maybe marriage is dead, obsolete or at the very least passe. But I think you’d be wrong to believe the ubiquitous “they” on this topic.
I don’t think its “marriage” that died. I think it’s our ability to do that thing called “being married” that’s had a series of seizures. Continue reading
Let’s set the stage…you’re excited. You waited to kiss her until the 3rd date since you really really like her and wanted to build a little anticipation. After a great night of flirting, little touches, laughter and lingering glances into a very interested second party’s seductively soft green eyes, you quite simply can not WAIT to get to the evening’s finale. The big moment comes at the front door when she tilts her face up to yours… you lean in for the kiss and… Continue reading
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Tagged attraction, chemistry, Dating, dealbreakers, first date, kiss, kissers, kissing, life, love, lust, marriage, men, relationships, romance, women
Holiday survival kit:
Items needed are as follows…
- Several cups of good cheer (small bottles pack better)
- One “free pass” in case of foot in mouth syndrome
- One “free pass” for laughing at an embarrassing family story or baby picture
- Code word for get me the h*ll out of here now
- Decoder ring for spotting signs of social or emotional fatigue
- Cheat sheet of all topics to avoid at the dinner table with the family (small enough to tape to side of dinner glass)
- File of waterproofed family customs in case of emergency (hide in guest room toilet)
- Family Tree complete with names, pictures and relations to study during travel
- Coordinated communication on just how you met, what your plans are for the future, where you are staying while visiting (if it’s not obvious) and if you live together or not
- Gassed up car to make a quick get away if needed
Holiday survival plan: Continue reading
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Tagged communication, Culture, Dating, family, holiday, life, love, marriage, men, relationships, Travel, women