Tag Archives: Dating

Desperately Seeking Average

Posted on November 17, 2010 | 20 Comments

My apologies to anyone who considers themselves “average.” Please know that I completely respect your goals and dreams in life…be they average or … well, ok, I admit it… I’m lying when I say that. I have a hard time respecting “average” as a life goal. Why?

I have an aversion to the word “average” being applied to people. (It’s similar to my abhorrence of the word “normal” but that is a completely different blog topic.) It baffled me the other day when a friend of mine said “I’m just an average guy looking for Continue reading →

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How To Survive The Holidays With Your New Significant Other

Posted on October 7, 2010 | 4 Comments

Holiday survival kit:

Items needed are as follows…

  • Several cups of good cheer (small bottles pack better)
  • One “free pass” in case of foot in mouth syndrome
  • One “free pass” for laughing at an embarrassing family story or baby picture
  • Code word for get me the h*ll out of here now
  • Decoder ring for spotting signs of social or emotional fatigue
  • Cheat sheet of all topics to avoid at the dinner table with the family (small enough to tape to side of dinner glass)
  • File of waterproofed family customs in case of emergency (hide in guest room toilet)
  • Family Tree complete with names, pictures and relations to study during travel
  • Coordinated communication on just how you met, what your plans are for the future, where you are staying while visiting (if it’s not obvious) and if you live together or not
  • Gassed up car to make a quick get away if needed

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Where Are The Men?

Posted on September 21, 2010 | 8 Comments

Dear Female Readers,

I often get asked something like this; “Where can I go to meet a man?”

Well, I assume that you aren’t interested in just any man. You want a certain type of man. Continue reading →

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Looking For The Romantic But Missing The Love

Posted on August 5, 2010 | 2 Comments

It occurred to me over the weekend, that some people may find planning (in and of itself) very romantic. In the very nature of what they are communicating (that they want to be with you,) they are giving you much more romance than a handful of flowers, surprise tickets to the game or a candle lit dinner. In fact, I think a lot of guys wonder why in the world their girl keeps wondering how he feels about her when he keeps showing it by making plans to be with her (the 5 Love Languages concept.)

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Should the Man Always Be On Top?

Posted on July 14, 2010 | 4 Comments

I was thinking about all the “schools of thought” there are on the “correct” way to “catch” someone or maximize your dating success and it occurred to me… why don’t we just listen to what our heart needs and follow that?

For example, I’ve always had better relationships with men who are willing and enjoy taking a leadership role. Not in a caveman kind of way, but men who follow the school of thought that to lead well is to know how to serve. It just works for me. Opens my heart and spirit to receive more gracefully than if I am forced into a role where I have to make all the decisions or do the pursuing. But that doesn’t mean that it works that way for every girl. Continue reading →

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Will You Change Your “Relationship” Status?

Posted on July 6, 2010 | 11 Comments

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Changing your “relationship status.”

For those who live and breathe social media, this little click of a button signifies a one-line piece of big news. But for people who are skeptical of the value of sharing their life with a world of partial strangers, changing that status can be a make it or break it moment in every relationship.

The real problems arise when you are dating someone who feels differently than you do about shouting out to the world that you are in a relationship. If you’re a little in doubt as to where your boyfriend or girlfriend falls on the “status change” issue, here are some tips on how to spot and communicate with the 4 most common types of social media attitudes: Continue reading →

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How To Be The Guy Who Gets The Girl

Posted on June 28, 2010 | 19 Comments

I’ve noticed a trend recently. Guys who show up with unambiguous intention are doing very well with getting the girl.

What do I mean by “unambiguous intention?” I’m talking about communicating the desires of your heart. You want to ask her out on a “date?” You ask her out and make it clear it’s a date. You want her to be your girlfriend? You ask her to be your girlfriend. You think she’s marriage material? You let her know that your intent is to find out if you guys are a good match for the long-term and continue communicating your thoughts and feelings about that as you go.

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Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

Posted on June 24, 2010 | 8 Comments

What do you do when you’re starting to merge lives with your new partner and you figure out that your friends might be a problem?

Either her friends are too materialistic or his friends are overgrown frat boys or both friend groups are great, but not when put together. How can you manage the fall out that may come from mismatched friend sets? Continue reading →

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The Three Ways To Meet Someone New

Posted on June 22, 2010 | 12 Comments

A friend sent me an article today titled “The Top 10 Places To Meet Single Men Or Women.” The usual roster ensued… work, school, mutual friends, bar, etc. No surprises there. But it did get me thinking.

You all know I’ve been interviewing singles and asking invasive, personal relationship questions for years, but my all time favorite question ever is “How did you meet?” I ask new couples, I ask married people, I ask divorced people. I even ask people how their parents met. Pretty much, I ask everyone how they met the person they are with, were with or whatever.

My informal poll has revealed the following information… there are really only three ways people meet a potential love interest.

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How To Get A Girl’s Number

Posted on June 1, 2010 | 5 Comments

Approach anxiety? I totally get it. I’m notorious for not being able to make and MAINTAIN eye contact with a guy I’m interested in getting to know better (the girl version of an approach.) An actual date? No problem. Guys I don’t know very well, but have a crush on? Problem! Stupid remnants of childhood shyness. *sigh* It must be even harder for you guys to reach out to a girl you’re interested in asking out…

So, here are some tricks of the trade from a girl’s point of view on not only approaching a girl you’re interested in but walking away with her number: Continue reading →

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