You’ve all heard the saying “nice guys finish last.” And I’m betting that many of you have embraced it as truth. If you have, I’m going to make you a bit uncomfortable with this post because I don’t believe it. I do believe that any number of things can hamstring a guy’s ability to “get” the girl, but I don’t think being “nice” is one of them.
First, let’s make sure that your “nice guy” and my “nice guy” definitions line up. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating
Tagged crazy chick, Dating, friend zone, Nice guy, Player Handbook, relationship
I’ve long been of the opinion that what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” that certain someone. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ve seen me write about it before.
Last week, I was listening to a truly awesome sermon series by Andy Stanley and he expanded on that premise. He was talking about the commoditization of women and how prevalent it is in our culture today. He first made us all laugh by bringing up the fact that every time a dude comes up with a cult idea it includes some divine reason that he needs to have sex Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Culture, Dating, Online Dating
Tagged Andy Stanley, Dating, match.com, relationships
Alas… you suspect that you may be in the friend zone. And like Survivor, if you landed in the Zone, you’ll need to OutWit, OutLast and OutPlay your competition in order to get out of the zone.
Three Quick Tips to shortcut the Friend Zone:
This test is purely for determining whether or not you are in the Zone. If you choose to stay in the Zone, that is entirely up to you. (But really… if you insist that the Friend Zone is fine with you, then why are you taking this test?)
The Friend Zone Test
All answers are multiple choice. Pick one answer that best describes your situation. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Humor
Tagged advice, Dating, friend zone, Friend Zone Test, friendship, relationships
Let Her Know That She Is Special: By J.D.
My boyfriend and I had been dating for a few months and he was coming to town so we could go to a New Year’s Eve party together. I knew this was the make it or break it date. I was wildly sliding between not telling people we were dating (my thinking was that if history is any indication of the future, then we’d be breaking up soon) and trying to figure out how to work his name into every single conversation (I was crazy about him!)
It wasn’t the dinner or the flowers or the fact that he had traveled halfway across the world to see me. New Year’s Eve turned into my Let’s Make This Work night when I realized that I loved being me when he was there. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date
Tagged advice, attention, boyfriend, competition, Dating, effort, iphone, love, relationship, Text messaging
Lesson #1: You don’t have to start out as a prince or princess to find true love.
Lesson #2: That being said, true love doesn’t happen everyday so be ready for it when you do find it!
Lesson #3: It’s easier to be ready for true love when you know what you want. So, like Inigo Montoya… Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Humor, Online Dating
Tagged Dating, Inigo Montoya, love, match.com, online dating, Princess Bride quotes, relationships, Top 10, true love
If 
you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. In fact, normally I don’t even mention this Hallmark occasion until a day or two before it happens. The first year, I grudgingly posted on how to make V-Day less of a dooms day if you happened to be a guy dating a more successful girl. Last year, I re-posted one of my favorite posts about what I love about men.
But this year, I’ve decided to use the month leading up to V-Day to not only give fair warning for those of you who need a heads up that it’s coming, but to examine all of the things men AND women have to be grateful for whether you are single, dating, married or some combination of the three. I figure that remembering all the ways we are grateful might help mitigate all the ways V-Day can really grate on the wrong nerves.
So, today I want to be grateful for change. Yep, I said it… the dreaded “C” word. Change. Whether you get the shudders just reading that word or wistful thoughts about all the things you’d like to change, here are some thoughts for remembering why change is a great thing for your romantic life…
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Culture, Dating, Relationship Advice
Tagged advice, change, Dating, gratitude, Hallmark, Holidays, Kama Sutra, love, relationships, single, Television, Valentine's Day
If you’re a female anywhere between the ages of 20-45, you very likely just weathered the storms of the Christmas engagement season. If you’re single, you watch as scores of your friends post pictures of pretty little sparklers and smushy face pictures with their new fiancée and think… “One day…” or “Suckahs!” (depending on your opinion of marriage.) But, if you’re dating and were somewhat expecting to receive a ring over the holidays, you’re likely avoiding Facebook, family and friend’s phone calls, TV commercials, malls and the like in an effort to control your emotions and expectations.
So, you made it through the engagement season with no ring on your finger. Now what? Continue reading
Posted in Dating
Tagged Brad Womack, christmas, Christmas and holiday season, Dating, disappointment, Engagement, expectations, Facebook, Hugh Hefner, intentions, marriage, New Years Eve, trust, Valentine's Day
How are your resolutions going? Honestly, I’m not usually a resolute New Years celebrator. I’ve always believed in actively changing what needs changing when it needs changing instead of waiting for the 1st day of a new year. But this year, I had some learning to do. I discovered… “Relationship Goals.” (dunh dunh dunnnnnh)
Hunh. Never really had those before. My boyfriend convinced me that relationship goals were in order. So, we’re in the midst of sorting out what’s mine, his and OURS as far as changes that we intend to embrace. It’s been an interesting week. I’ll leave it at that. But today, we seem to have some clear goals on the table and no one killed anyone else, so I think we’re doing pretty well. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Personal, Relationship Advice
Tagged attitude, compassion, Dating, goal setting, gym, love, marriage, new year resolutions, patience, respect, rewards
Let’s set the stage…you’re excited. You waited to kiss her until the 3rd date since you really really like her and wanted to build a little anticipation. After a great night of flirting, little touches, laughter and lingering glances into a very interested second party’s seductively soft green eyes, you quite simply can not WAIT to get to the evening’s finale. The big moment comes at the front door when she tilts her face up to yours… you lean in for the kiss and… Continue reading
Posted in Dating, Finding a Date, Humor, Keeping a Date, Personal
Tagged attraction, chemistry, Dating, dealbreakers, first date, kiss, kissers, kissing, life, love, lust, marriage, men, relationships, romance, women
Picture this. You spend quite a lot of time with your partner. In fact, you see him/her every night or just about. You may be married, living together or dating but whatever the label, your significant other is the person you spend the most time with in the world.
Now imagine, you go to dinner one night and your partner leans in to tell you something VERY serious. She pushes her plate out-of-the-way and leans in, looking you eye to eye and says ” I feel like we don’t spend any quality time together.”
There is a moment of disbelief and then you think… she’s kidding… right? Continue reading
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