Tag Archives: dating advice

How to Avoid the “Crazy Chick”

Confusing, man-eating, delicate flowers… yes, I know. Navigating the world of women when you are firmly in the Y chromosome category pose challenges that test the courage of many a man-child. Some men are lucky/smart enough to get a gal pal or two to decode the mysteries. Some men cannily do the research… things like reading good blogs on dating and mating in America or even getting a dating coach. But some poor sods continue to mope over a beer with the guys and bewail recent blunders, innocent mistakes and in short, continuing to make the same mistake again and again. Attracting the crazies.

I decided to crack the door on Pandora’s Box here and give you some tips that may or may not help you navigate away from the man-eating crazy flowers and find a woman who makes your toes curl. In a good way. Continue reading

Let’s Talk Body Language

We’ve all been there…the date where you just missed the cues… She wanted you to kiss her and you shook her hand instead. He wanted to be anywhere but there and you couldn’t stop telling that story about your grandmother’s teacup poodle. When you forget to pay attention to your audience… you run the risk of being “that” date living on your date’s oral tradition of crazy date stories.

How to avoid missing the details within the big picture? Pay attention to the non-verbal cues. She may say yes to date #2, but is she really going to answer your call? Continue reading

Are You Cheap or Frugal?

Ahhh, economic woes. Budgetary cutbacks really bring out the penny pincher in us all. Especially when it comes to the old social life. But how do you know whether your date thinks you’re cheap or frugal? A few simple distinctions may help you stay on the more gracious side of the wallet…

  1. A cheap date values the dollar over a person. A frugal date values the person over the dollar.
  2. Cheap dates are inconsiderate. They skimp on the tip or request that their date order something less expensive. A frugal date takes you somewhere where they know they can afford the bill without cheating the servers or anxiously monitoring your food selection.
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How To Really Enjoy New Year’s Eve

It’s probably pretty easy to get caught up in wishing a fond (or not so fond) farewell to 2009 and welcoming in 2010 with new resolutions, pant girding parties and all sorts of other mayhem. I’m with you. While I actually had a pretty splendid 2009, I’m looking forward to an even better 2010. Everything feels new and fresh and right out of the box, so I plan to enjoy unwrapping the new year.

New Years Eve always seems to be one of those holidays that can make or break a relationship. I mean, let’s admit it… expectations run high and disappointment can flow deep. Some people who like to celebrate in style are dating or married to people who would rather hunker down with a home cooked meal, fire light and one on one time. It can lead to… issues, resentment, complaints and arguments. But it doesn’t have to… Continue reading

Long Distance Romance

**In honor of the men and women who are not Veterans YET, I thought I would re-post about Long Distance Relationships since I’m sure that you have more than your fair share of experience in this arena.

Happy Veteran’s Day!**

Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?

I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.

Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.

So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus Continue reading

Detoxing From Bad Dating Behaviors

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Ok, so, yes… I’m having a bit of fun about a difficult topic. It’s one of the most frustrating issues for most daters… how do I change the type of person I’m attracting? Continue reading

Can You Ever Date a Friend’s Ex?

The question of the day from a reader: How long are you expected to stay loyal to a friend and not date their ex?

Interesting dilemma since both guy and girl code are pretty specific on this one point… Thou shalt NOT date a friend’s ex.

Notwithstanding the incestuous dating groups, most friendships have a hard time weathering the storm of when a current friend becomes interested in an old flame. Consequently, most of the people I know who value their friendships try to avoid the scenario all together. But what do you do when it seems that the statute of possession limitations has honestly run out and you think this guy or girl just might be your ideal drink of water?

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The Last Word

Being the communicator that I am, you may be tempted to think that I’m also a fan of getting the last word. But actually… nothing could be further from the truth.

The unfortunate side effect to being the “go to” girl on the dating subject? I hear a lot of stories about how people have already messed something up, but instead of realizing it… they’re patting themselves on the back for a job well done. Part of me wonders if I should tell them that their ship is already sinking because they took a shotgun and blew a hole in the bottom of their own boat.

By far the most prevalent gun used… the need to get the last word.

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Meeting the Friends: A Survival Guide

Managing first impressions when you meet your date’s “friends” can be a challenge even for the most socially astute. I’ve never been an advocate of gamesmanship in the dating pool, but there are times and places for a bit less boister and a lot more tact. It’s a good idea to “be yourself” unless “yourself” is a boorish, fight-picking, butt-grabbing, inappropriate flirt. If that is the case, I’d suggest being the least amount of “yourself” as you can reasonably pull off.

Here are a few tips to catapult you to the positive side of the friend approval meter: Continue reading

What to Do When the Ex Wants You Back.

After interviewing so many people, I’ve heard stories about how getting back together was the best decision they ever made or the worst train wreck in history that ended with someone in jail. And everything in between. I suppose it really comes down to the two people involved and the motives at the heart of it all to figure out if its going to stick or not. But what do you do when that person is you and your ex is trying to get you back?

If you’ve been avidly following my blog, you may have seen my post about being friends with the ex. Its possible to have a great friendship, but what happens when your ex starts breaking the “friends only” rules? Here you are, in a good relationship/new relationship/exciting relationship/recovered your mojo phase/etc and up pops your ex with talk about how great the two of you were together, what if you tried one more time… Continue reading