Have you noticed that online dating has become more and more like a trip to the store with a list of items you want? Tall and with hair. Check. Young and perky. Check. Wants children. Check. I’m as guilty as the next person of having a few items that are deal-breakers, but I’ve tried to [...]
Posts Tagged as ‘commitment’
November 11, 2009
Long Distance Romance
Long distance romance. Plausible or just a pain?
I’ve been getting lots of requests for a few posts on long distance romance, so lets talk about it.
Some people claim they will go anywhere and do anything for love. Traveling every other weekend to see each other, moving states and jobs, living with a phone in their ear and keyboard under their fingers. Others scoff at the possibility of making it last claiming things like “out of sight, out of mind,” “how can you really get to know someone when you aren’t living close enough to each other to ‘do life’ together,” or even that they might find love at a distance but settle for the person thats closer at hand since life is complicated enough without adding in some improbable relationship into the mix.
So, did you happen to meet someone from another city and don’t know if you can make it work? Were you blissfully bumping along in the same town and then one or the other of you got transferred? Personally, I think anything is possible, but you have to know yourself well to know if long distance is a possibility for you. A long distance relationship (LDR) brings the same set of challenges a local relationship does plus the added element of needing to resolve the issues even if you can’t be face to face…
October 30, 2009
The Potential Trap
I’m working on a pretty in-depth post about weight and dating and attitude and was hoping to post it today. And then I took my daily lunch blog break and caught up on Sex, Lies and Dating in the City. Simone posted a stunning story about a topic near and dear to my heart. Avoiding [...]
September 23, 2009
Are You Dating A Commitment-Phobe?
They say it’s easy to fall in love with a commitment-phobe. I have to wonder about the veracity of this statement, but I guess there is a certain allure to the person who is always *just* beyond your reach and refuses to dance by the unofficial steps of the relationship dance. Commitment-phobes come in all [...]
July 14, 2009
What to Do When the Ex Wants You Back.
After interviewing so many people, I’ve heard stories about how getting back together was the best decision they ever made or the worst train wreck in history that ended with someone in jail. And everything in between. I suppose it really comes down to the two people involved and the motives at the heart of [...]
June 16, 2009
Expectations: The Death of Love
I had the privilege of hearing the author of “The Shack” speak over the weekend and something he said really hit those — must blog, must blog — chords. He was talking about the forgiveness process inherent in all relationships and the need to extend grace, compassion and forgiveness even when you don’t think someone [...]
June 10, 2009
The American Age Bias
You’re 38 and never married? Why not? What’s wrong with you?
Can we talk about the age bias we have going on in the dating world? There seems to be an ideal age that one, theoretically, gets hitched in this life. While not official, that window seems to be 27-32. I don’t hear very many folks [...]
June 5, 2009
Dating with Intent: Or why isn’t he calling me? (Part 2)
Continued from Part 1
Down to the brass tacks. How do you figure out if you and he are in the same place on the commitment meter? Communication helps.
You can be incredibly fortunate and have one of those straight-shooting, man-up kind of guys around. You know the ones… found in the endangered species section of the dating dictionary. [...]
June 4, 2009
Dating with Intent: Or why is he calling me? (Part 1)
Steve Harvey’s new book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” talks about some pretty funny stuff. I’ll admit, I enjoyed the read. Laughed where I was cued to laugh, nodded my head in agreement where I was prompted to agree and held many of my questions/scepticism at bay simply because I was enjoying [...]
April 1, 2009
Why Are You Still Single?
May we please ban the question, “Why are you still single?” I mean really, how many ways do you need to hear some version of, “I just haven’t found the right person yet.”
I know that I know that many of you are nodding your heads in violent agreement with the concept of banning this question. Tired of hearing it everywhere from weddings and showers to nights out on the town and even over to people emailing you from an online profile. So why in the world does anyone ask it? Let’s look at the people behind this kind of question:
