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		<title>Comment on Are You Cheap or Frugal? by Wilhelm</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Wilhelm]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:53:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I think you have it backwards sunshine...  why should a guy spend money on someone on a first date that they are meeting for the first time but not in the later stages of relationship.  On the first date, this person doesn&#039;t mean anything to you so why bother hiding your frugality, that&#039;s just being dishonest.  Better to be upfront about it and quickly eliminate partners that aren&#039;t going to be compatible.  I&#039;m much more likely to spend money on someone that I&#039;ve had a longer relationship with rather than someone I&#039;m meeting for the first time.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think you have it backwards sunshine&#8230;  why should a guy spend money on someone on a first date that they are meeting for the first time but not in the later stages of relationship.  On the first date, this person doesn&#8217;t mean anything to you so why bother hiding your frugality, that&#8217;s just being dishonest.  Better to be upfront about it and quickly eliminate partners that aren&#8217;t going to be compatible.  I&#8217;m much more likely to spend money on someone that I&#8217;ve had a longer relationship with rather than someone I&#8217;m meeting for the first time.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Are You Cheap or Frugal? by Jimmi Changa</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jimmi Changa]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 14 Apr 2012 23:28:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I disagree with sunshine on her part on frugal (not cheap) showing before the &#039;real relationship&#039;, and I don&#039;t think she understands what the author was getting at.  I was dating a woman who only picked pricier/up-scale restaurants.  This was troubling to me, so I suggested mixing in a few dates at some excellent hole-in-wall joints that take great pride in their food.  That&#039;s showing my style and my frugality before the real relationship begins.  You can still be romantic at a hole-in-the-wall, and I can still entertain a few nice restaurants in the mix.  If that&#039;s a problem to my date, then the sooner I know, the better.  Why put on a facade before it gets real?]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I disagree with sunshine on her part on frugal (not cheap) showing before the &#8216;real relationship&#8217;, and I don&#8217;t think she understands what the author was getting at.  I was dating a woman who only picked pricier/up-scale restaurants.  This was troubling to me, so I suggested mixing in a few dates at some excellent hole-in-wall joints that take great pride in their food.  That&#8217;s showing my style and my frugality before the real relationship begins.  You can still be romantic at a hole-in-the-wall, and I can still entertain a few nice restaurants in the mix.  If that&#8217;s a problem to my date, then the sooner I know, the better.  Why put on a facade before it gets real?</p>
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		<title>Comment on How to Spot Character: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly by np</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[np]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Apr 2012 19:25:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[as per this my character doesnt belong to any clasification, i have a image of bad character person , can i become a good character person?, i was informed character cannot be changed and no acceptance once considered as bad character.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>as per this my character doesnt belong to any clasification, i have a image of bad character person , can i become a good character person?, i was informed character cannot be changed and no acceptance once considered as bad character.</p>
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		<title>Comment on How to date an Entrepreneur by How to date an Entrepreneur &#171; Smiling Zindgi</title>
		<link>http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-4863</link>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[How to date an Entrepreneur &#171; Smiling Zindgi]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Apr 2012 10:23:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[[...] on dating and Living with an Entrepreneur, I am sure you all will have a great time reading it here. Share this:TwitterFacebookLike this:LikeBe the first to like this [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Comment on High Maintenance/ Low Maintenance by High Maintenance Girls &#124; urbanpedi</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[High Maintenance Girls &#124; urbanpedi]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2012 08:03:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[[...] to dating in America, but I find it SO relevant to the new breed of young South Africans, enjoy! http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2009/02/20/maintenanc/ Share this:TwitterFacebookLike this:LikeBe the first to like this post.   This entry was posted in [...]]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] to dating in America, but I find it SO relevant to the new breed of young South Africans, enjoy! <a href="http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2009/02/20/maintenanc/" rel="nofollow">http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2009/02/20/maintenanc/</a> Share this:TwitterFacebookLike this:LikeBe the first to like this post.   This entry was posted in [...]</p>
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		<title>Comment on Hotlanta not so Hot for daters by Ren</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ren]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Apr 2012 10:56:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am a single female in Atlanta.  I have lived here for 15 years.  When I was in my 20&#039;s I was able to get dates but not a whole lot.  Now that I&#039;m in my 30&#039;s I can&#039;t get dates at all.  And all the years that I&#039;ve been here, I&#039;ve never met a man who wanted a serious relationship relationship.  Not ever.  They always say they don&#039;t want a commitment but they want to have sex. 

To live in one place for 15 years as an adult woman with no prospects for a date, much less a husband or serious boyfriend, is a very long time. I am trying my best to move from Atlanta just so I can get dates and try to have a love life.  Hopefully it&#039;s not too late for me.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am a single female in Atlanta.  I have lived here for 15 years.  When I was in my 20&#8242;s I was able to get dates but not a whole lot.  Now that I&#8217;m in my 30&#8242;s I can&#8217;t get dates at all.  And all the years that I&#8217;ve been here, I&#8217;ve never met a man who wanted a serious relationship relationship.  Not ever.  They always say they don&#8217;t want a commitment but they want to have sex. </p>
<p>To live in one place for 15 years as an adult woman with no prospects for a date, much less a husband or serious boyfriend, is a very long time. I am trying my best to move from Atlanta just so I can get dates and try to have a love life.  Hopefully it&#8217;s not too late for me.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Top 10 Online Dating Lessons from &#8220;The Princess Bride&#8221; by Jason</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jason]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Apr 2012 23:51:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Greatest movie ever. So cheesy now, but it was seriously the greatest movie ever when I was 10 years old...]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Greatest movie ever. So cheesy now, but it was seriously the greatest movie ever when I was 10 years old&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Comment on Worst. Date. Ever. by kellilawless</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[kellilawless]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:56:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[That&#039;s great to hear! Good luck with your Match girl! :)]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That&#8217;s great to hear! Good luck with your Match girl! <img src='http://s0.wp.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>Comment on Dating a Dog Lover by kellilawless</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[kellilawless]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:49:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ummm... sense of humor? No &quot;shoulds&quot; here -- really just an article to make people dating dog people smile.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ummm&#8230; sense of humor? No &#8220;shoulds&#8221; here &#8212; really just an article to make people dating dog people smile.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Dating a Dog Lover by disfasia</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[disfasia]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:45:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yeah, I have to say you make a lot of assumptions about what people have to do to please you. I can see you are going to be single for a long time unless you change your attitude.  You give a long list of how people should behave--wow!  This not only is controlling but it is incredibly offensive.  Imagine if someone gave you a list of forty do&#039;s and don&#039;ts on a first date? You would think that person had lost their marbles.

To be perfectly clear people don&#039;t have to dress a certain way because your dog humps or sniffs nor do they have to wear certain attire. Any well behaved dog does not require such a controlling element.  You alone need to take care of your dog&#039;s behaviour when it transgresses what are normal boundaries that people have and not have people perform acts to satisfy your dog&#039;s needs.  If I don&#039;t want your dog sniffing or jumping on me, that is well within my right as an autonomous human to have this.  How weird that you suggest otherwise.  Offering to dog sit? Are you joking? You take on a job as a person who wants to possess another life (which in and of itself is an odd concept)--you deal with it.  If people are dating you, it is presumptive to assume they must somehow take part in your responsibilities.  Dogs are not people but they must respect people and part of this training whether or not you like it, involves respecting what your date needs.  If your date does not want to deal with your needs to have a dog in tow for everything to include doing all the outdoor things you want to do, you need to compromise. It is perfectly remarkable how you assume the responsibility of this animal lies anywhere near the dog owner&#039;s date. It does not. You have to realise that other people not owning dogs does not implicate them in owning one just because they date you. That would be like me asking you to pay half the mortgage on my home or dumping my kids on you.  You really need to understand that the world does not revolve around you...or your dog.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yeah, I have to say you make a lot of assumptions about what people have to do to please you. I can see you are going to be single for a long time unless you change your attitude.  You give a long list of how people should behave&#8211;wow!  This not only is controlling but it is incredibly offensive.  Imagine if someone gave you a list of forty do&#8217;s and don&#8217;ts on a first date? You would think that person had lost their marbles.</p>
<p>To be perfectly clear people don&#8217;t have to dress a certain way because your dog humps or sniffs nor do they have to wear certain attire. Any well behaved dog does not require such a controlling element.  You alone need to take care of your dog&#8217;s behaviour when it transgresses what are normal boundaries that people have and not have people perform acts to satisfy your dog&#8217;s needs.  If I don&#8217;t want your dog sniffing or jumping on me, that is well within my right as an autonomous human to have this.  How weird that you suggest otherwise.  Offering to dog sit? Are you joking? You take on a job as a person who wants to possess another life (which in and of itself is an odd concept)&#8211;you deal with it.  If people are dating you, it is presumptive to assume they must somehow take part in your responsibilities.  Dogs are not people but they must respect people and part of this training whether or not you like it, involves respecting what your date needs.  If your date does not want to deal with your needs to have a dog in tow for everything to include doing all the outdoor things you want to do, you need to compromise. It is perfectly remarkable how you assume the responsibility of this animal lies anywhere near the dog owner&#8217;s date. It does not. You have to realise that other people not owning dogs does not implicate them in owning one just because they date you. That would be like me asking you to pay half the mortgage on my home or dumping my kids on you.  You really need to understand that the world does not revolve around you&#8230;or your dog.</p>
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