A few days ago, a man I was dating pointed me to this book -
http://books.google.com/books?id=9SPVkbeW6X4C&pg=1&lpg=1&dq=hazards+of+being+male
It was written in 1976 by Herb Goldberg, and it is as true today as it was in 1976.

The point in the book is that Passivity is one of the many natural human conditions which have been converted into sins to shame men into the myth of masculinity.

It is time for you men to reclaim your rights, including your right to be passive and to make the women in your life actually get off their lazy fat asses and do a little more of the asking out, planning for dates, and facing rejections.

Once you read the book end-to-end, you will recognize the myths that you have been believing in – the pure perfect helpless damsel in distress that ever supposedly delicate woman pretends to be. What you men need is self-confidence and the power to not depend on women.

Yes, you will still depend on them to have babies, but women need babies as much as you do. As for sex, granted that your urge is way more than it is for women, but you can do it yourself much better.

You men should be in a relationship with a woman not because you need her, but rather because you want to. Likewise, you should not be a slave or servant to any woman, and you should not be her boss or sex master either. You have your own life to live. So reclaim your rights.

Then, with the utmost respect, i think this is something you — and other relationship counselor/blogger types — ought to be telling the guys.

We women already know it.