I guess it’s time to admit to myself that my blog break has turned into something more. Thank you to all of you who have commented, subscribed, enjoyed and participated in this little online community. And thank you for continually affirming that there are a lot of great, kind and very caring people out there looking for all the right things.
Best wishes in your trek through the wild and wooly jungle that we all know as “dating.” I hope that you find exactly what you’re looking for… and if you need any tips along the way, I’ll move the most popular blog posts to the front page for easy reading.
Do you totally identify with the old saying “nice guys finish last?” Well, maybe it’s not your niceness that’s killing your chances with the ladies… perhaps you need to hone your “edge.
From last week’s post: Your “edge” is all about confidence in yourself and your decisions. Not bragging. Not ego. Just confidence.
So, how do you hone your edgy nice guy skills? Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date
Tagged Confidence, Dale Carnegie, Decision making, get the girl, leader, Nice guy, passive, playboy
You’ve all heard the saying “nice guys finish last.” And I’m betting that many of you have embraced it as truth. If you have, I’m going to make you a bit uncomfortable with this post because I don’t believe it. I do believe that any number of things can hamstring a guy’s ability to “get” the girl, but I don’t think being “nice” is one of them.
First, let’s make sure that your “nice guy” and my “nice guy” definitions line up. Continue reading
I’ve long been of the opinion that what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” that certain someone. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ve seen me write about it before.
Last week, I was listening to a truly awesome sermon series by Andy Stanley and he expanded on that premise. He was talking about the commoditization of women and how prevalent it is in our culture today. He first made us all laugh by bringing up the fact that every time a dude comes up with a cult idea it includes some divine reason that he needs to have sex Continue reading
Truth time! If you are letting days and weeks go by between your contact and dates with each other… you are seriously at risk of hitting the “fizzle zone.”
Dates 1-3 are crucial for hitting a stride of 2+ times per week of contact and at least Continue reading
Alas… you suspect that you may be in the friend zone. And like Survivor, if you landed in the Zone, you’ll need to OutWit, OutLast and OutPlay your competition in order to get out of the zone.
Three Quick Tips to shortcut the Friend Zone:
- Be Firm (Don’t let the other person push you into the friend zone if you don’t want to be there.)
- Be Direct (If you want something more than a friendship, say so.)
- Don’t Linger (If you figure out that you’re in the friend zone with no likelihood of escape… redirect your time and energy to a more receptive candidate.)
This test is purely for determining whether or not you are in the Zone. If you choose to stay in the Zone, that is entirely up to you. (But really… if you insist that the Friend Zone is fine with you, then why are you taking this test?)
The Friend Zone Test
All answers are multiple choice. Pick one answer that best describes your situation. Continue reading
I went to a lingerie shower over the weekend for one of my favorite people. She is getting married this summer and all of her home girls gathered together for a little spa and bra kind of day. One of our “assignments” was to write her our best piece of advice and read it to her as she opened her presents.
Here are some of the pieces of advice that were given (see if you can guess which one was mine *grin*)
- Always give your husband a passionate kiss as he walks out the door for work in the morning. It reminds him what he’s coming home to that night.
- Don’t quit having kinky sex!
- Love your life.
- If you’re having a disagreement or argument, hold each others hands and look into each others eyes. It’s amazing how hard it is to say things you can never take back when you’re doing that.
- Don’t go to bed angry.
- Record the great memories of your first few years of marriage. There are days in the future when you’ll need the reminders.
- Take the time to tell each other what you love about the other person.
- The best gift you can give your guy is a great steak dinner followed by a blow job.
- Know that when you have kids, you’ll be too tired to have sex. So have lots of it now.
- Have fun together!
Do you have any tips to add for the engaged couples out there?
Posted in Advice for Girls, Dating, Relationship Advice
Tagged blow job, Engagement, love, marriage, men, relationships, respect, tips, women
Thanks to one of my fellow bloggers for this guest post. It’s a good thing to learn… that dating to change someone thing… no bueno. Enjoy!
I’m a flipper. A house flipper that is. It’s what I do. I see a diamond in the rough and imagine it with a little spit and polish. Perhaps some new tiles and nice stainless steel appliances. A new roof and trimming up the trees. Ripping out carpet and refinishing some old wood floors.
Yes, I love the process. Making all the decisions to really create a new home for a young family or perhaps a newly married couple. It can really be fun. But to be honest, I like the smaller flips in up and coming neighborhoods. You know why? Well, typically I can get the best bang for my buck on the re-sale. I fix the cosmetic, look for houses that don’t need structural fixes and get really really excited about selling the house and cashing in. Then, I move on to the next.
Why am I telling you all of this? Well, last year, I realized that I’ve been flipping relationships. Sound familiar? Continue reading
Let Her Know That She Is Special: By J.D.
My boyfriend and I had been dating for a few months and he was coming to town so we could go to a New Year’s Eve party together. I knew this was the make it or break it date. I was wildly sliding between not telling people we were dating (my thinking was that if history is any indication of the future, then we’d be breaking up soon) and trying to figure out how to work his name into every single conversation (I was crazy about him!)
It wasn’t the dinner or the flowers or the fact that he had traveled halfway across the world to see me. New Year’s Eve turned into my Let’s Make This Work night when I realized that I loved being me when he was there. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date
Tagged advice, attention, boyfriend, competition, Dating, effort, iphone, love, relationship, Text messaging
Last week, my wife (who is universally regarded as a hard act to follow) used this space and provided an insightful, touching, and thoughtful portrait of the last part of our first year of marriage. We’ve had some hurdles already – I’m not sure I’ve ever had as much asked of me emotionally, physically and mentally as I did for four weeks in March and April.
She wrote that our marriage is successful in part because I am kind, generous and loving. It’s true – I am Or at least I try very hard to be. But she is too – to an extent that I could probably never be, and she makes me a better person because of it. A person better able Continue reading