I guess it’s time to admit to myself that my blog break has turned into something more. Thank you to all of you who have commented, subscribed, enjoyed and participated in this little online community. And thank you for continually affirming that there are a lot of great, kind and very caring people out there looking for all the right things.
Best wishes in your trek through the wild and wooly jungle that we all know as “dating.” I hope that you find exactly what you’re looking for… and if you need any tips along the way, I’ll move the most popular blog posts to the front page for easy reading.
Do you totally identify with the old saying “nice guys finish last?” Well, maybe it’s not your niceness that’s killing your chances with the ladies… perhaps you need to hone your “edge.
From last week’s post: Your “edge” is all about confidence in yourself and your decisions. Not bragging. Not ego. Just confidence.
So, how do you hone your edgy nice guy skills? Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date
Tagged Confidence, Dale Carnegie, Decision making, get the girl, leader, Nice guy, passive, playboy
You’ve all heard the saying “nice guys finish last.” And I’m betting that many of you have embraced it as truth. If you have, I’m going to make you a bit uncomfortable with this post because I don’t believe it. I do believe that any number of things can hamstring a guy’s ability to “get” the girl, but I don’t think being “nice” is one of them.
First, let’s make sure that your “nice guy” and my “nice guy” definitions line up. Continue reading
I’ve long been of the opinion that what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” that certain someone. If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ve seen me write about it before.
Last week, I was listening to a truly awesome sermon series by Andy Stanley and he expanded on that premise. He was talking about the commoditization of women and how prevalent it is in our culture today. He first made us all laugh by bringing up the fact that every time a dude comes up with a cult idea it includes some divine reason that he needs to have sex Continue reading
Truth time! If you are letting days and weeks go by between your contact and dates with each other… you are seriously at risk of hitting the “fizzle zone.”
Dates 1-3 are crucial for hitting a stride of 2+ times per week of contact and at least Continue reading
Alas… you suspect that you may be in the friend zone. And like Survivor, if you landed in the Zone, you’ll need to OutWit, OutLast and OutPlay your competition in order to get out of the zone.
Three Quick Tips to shortcut the Friend Zone:
- Be Firm (Don’t let the other person push you into the friend zone if you don’t want to be there.)
- Be Direct (If you want something more than a friendship, say so.)
- Don’t Linger (If you figure out that you’re in the friend zone with no likelihood of escape… redirect your time and energy to a more receptive candidate.)
This test is purely for determining whether or not you are in the Zone. If you choose to stay in the Zone, that is entirely up to you. (But really… if you insist that the Friend Zone is fine with you, then why are you taking this test?)
The Friend Zone Test
All answers are multiple choice. Pick one answer that best describes your situation. Continue reading
Let Her Know That She Is Special: By J.D.
My boyfriend and I had been dating for a few months and he was coming to town so we could go to a New Year’s Eve party together. I knew this was the make it or break it date. I was wildly sliding between not telling people we were dating (my thinking was that if history is any indication of the future, then we’d be breaking up soon) and trying to figure out how to work his name into every single conversation (I was crazy about him!)
It wasn’t the dinner or the flowers or the fact that he had traveled halfway across the world to see me. New Year’s Eve turned into my Let’s Make This Work night when I realized that I loved being me when he was there. Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Guys, Dating, Finding a Date, Keeping a Date
Tagged advice, attention, boyfriend, competition, Dating, effort, iphone, love, relationship, Text messaging
Last week, my wife (who is universally regarded as a hard act to follow) used this space and provided an insightful, touching, and thoughtful portrait of the last part of our first year of marriage. We’ve had some hurdles already – I’m not sure I’ve ever had as much asked of me emotionally, physically and mentally as I did for four weeks in March and April.
She wrote that our marriage is successful in part because I am kind, generous and loving. It’s true – I am Or at least I try very hard to be. But she is too – to an extent that I could probably never be, and she makes me a better person because of it. A person better able Continue reading
Sometimes life just throws you some curve balls, so I called in a few relief pitchers for your enjoyment over the next few weeks. A beautiful gift in my inbox, today’s post reminded me of how truly inspiring my friends are. I hope you enjoy this post by Courtney C. as much as I did…
How I knew he was the one:
My dad always used to tell me he wouldn’t pass judgment on the men I chose, because “when you think you’re in love, you’re in love.” So true, but you can absolutely be “in love” with someone who doesn’t make a good partner for you. And no matter how much you love that person, or even how much they love you back, it still doesn’t make it a good, healthy relationship.
I knew J was “the one” when … Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating, Keeping a Date, Relationship Advice
Tagged advice, cancer, Guest Post, Intimate relationship, love, marriage, relationships, romance, selfless
Opinions are all over the map when it comes to how much responsibility the “other woman” (or man) has for being in an affair. For essentially providing the outlet for the cheater to cheat. I’ll go on record as saying that I think the “other” woman or man has just as much responsibility as the cheater. There are always reasons and excuses and it’s easy to attempt a dodge in responsibility, but the fact of the matter is… if you know the person you are with is cheating on their significant other, then you are choosing to be with a cheater and essentially give them permission to do the exact same thing to you.
That being said, let’s assume that you are beginning to suspect that you may be the “other” and that is NOT ok with you… here are some rules of thumb for spotting a cheater: Continue reading
Posted in Advice for Girls, Advice for Guys, Dating
Tagged cheaters, friends, lies, life, love, marriage, men, relationships, the other woman, women