Monthly Archives: January 2011

The V-Day Countdown: Celebrating Forgiveness

Posted on January 25, 2011 | 5 Comments

To forgive is divine.

When you ask someone what they are looking for in a mate… so many of us are quick to rattle off things like love and fun, humor and intelligence. But, I’m betting, if we were REALLY honest with ourselves, we would admit that the ability to forgive is at the top of the list.

I mean really, can you imagine living with someone knowing that if you EVER make a mis-step, you are never going to live it down? Forgot to refresh the toilet paper roll? BLACK MARK. Used the last of the milk without warning? BLACK MARK. Forgot to make plans for Valentines Day? BLACK MARK. She overheard you talking smack about her mom to your best friend? BLACK MARK. You didn’t have time to pick up the dry cleaning? BLACK MARK. You joked about his love-handles once too often? BLACK MARK.

I could go on, but you get the drift. A life lived together is full of actions, words and thoughts, both little and big, that require forgiveness. Continue reading →

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The V-Day Countdown: Celebrating Change

Posted on January 18, 2011 | 5 Comments

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. In fact, normally I don’t even mention this Hallmark occasion until a day or two before it happens. The first year, I grudgingly posted on how to make V-Day less of a dooms day if you happened to be a guy dating a more successful girl. Last year, I re-posted one of my favorite posts about what I love about men.

But this year, I’ve decided to use the month leading up to V-Day to not only give fair warning for those of you who need a heads up that it’s coming, but to examine all of the things men AND women have to be grateful for whether you are single, dating, married or some combination of the three. I figure that remembering all the ways we are grateful might help mitigate all the ways V-Day can really grate on the wrong nerves.

So, today I want to be grateful for change. Yep, I said it… the dreaded “C” word. Change. Whether you get the shudders just reading that word or wistful thoughts about all the things you’d like to change, here are some thoughts for remembering why change is a great thing for your romantic life…

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How to Avoid the “Crazy Chick”

Posted on January 12, 2011 | 13 Comments

Confusing, man-eating, delicate flowers… yes, I know. Navigating the world of women when you are firmly in the Y chromosome category pose challenges that test the courage of many a man-child. Some men are lucky/smart enough to get a gal pal or two to decode the mysteries. Some men cannily do the research… things like reading good blogs on dating and mating in America or even getting a dating coach. But some poor sods continue to mope over a beer with the guys and bewail recent blunders, innocent mistakes and in short, continuing to make the same mistake again and again. Attracting the crazies.

I decided to crack the door on Pandora’s Box here and give you some tips that may or may not help you navigate away from the man-eating crazy flowers and find a woman who makes your toes curl. In a good way. Continue reading →

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Let’s Talk Body Language

Posted on January 10, 2011 | 29 Comments

We’ve all been there…the date where you just missed the cues… She wanted you to kiss her and you shook her hand instead. He wanted to be anywhere but there and you couldn’t stop telling that story about your grandmother’s teacup poodle. When you forget to pay attention to your audience… you run the risk of being “that” date living on your date’s oral tradition of crazy date stories.

How to avoid missing the details within the big picture? Pay attention to the non-verbal cues. She may say yes to date #2, but is she really going to answer your call? Continue reading →

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Show Me The Ring!

Posted on January 6, 2011 | 2 Comments

If you’re a female anywhere between the ages of 20-45, you very likely just weathered the storms of the Christmas engagement season. If you’re single, you watch as scores of your friends post pictures of pretty little sparklers and smushy face pictures with their new fiancée and think… “One day…” or “Suckahs!” (depending on your opinion of marriage.) But, if you’re dating and were somewhat expecting to receive a ring over the holidays, you’re likely avoiding Facebook, family and friend’s phone calls, TV commercials, malls and the like in an effort to control your emotions and expectations.

So, you made it through the engagement season with no ring on your finger. Now what? Continue reading →

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Relationship Goal Setting

Posted on January 4, 2011 | 4 Comments

How are your resolutions going? Honestly, I’m not usually a resolute New Years celebrator. I’ve always believed in actively changing what needs changing when it needs changing instead of waiting for the 1st day of a new year. But this year, I had some learning to do. I discovered… “Relationship Goals.” (dunh dunh dunnnnnh)

Hunh. Never really had those before. My boyfriend convinced me that relationship goals were in order. So, we’re in the midst of sorting out what’s mine, his and OURS as far as changes that we intend to embrace. It’s been an interesting week. I’ll leave it at that. But today, we seem to have some clear goals on the table and no one killed anyone else, so I think we’re doing pretty well. Continue reading →

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