Monthly Archives: March 2010

You’ll Just know. The Most Annoying Answer In The World.

I had a thought today. Not necessarily original, but one on which most of the singles of the world will agree. “You’ll just know” has got to be one of the most annoying and useless answers ever. Especially when it doubles as advice from married people about who and when to marry.

I mean think about it… when do you hear people say those three words together?

  • How will I know if the leftovers are bad? “You’ll just know.”
  • When should I re-apply the sunscreen? ”You’ll just know.”
  • What should I get you for Christmas? “You’ll just know.”
  • How can I make you happy? “You’ll just know.”
  • When do I need to burp the baby? “You’ll just know.”
  • How do I know when to call the police about my stalker? “You’ll just know.”
  • How can I avoid getting hit in the head with a stapler when my boss is in one of his moods? “You’ll just know.”
  • When do I break up with my girlfriend? “You’ll just know.”
  • How do I know if this is the right person to marry? “YOU’LL JUST KNOW.” Continue reading

What Happened to the Fun Part of Dating?


“Just have fun.”

Simple, right?

Hummm… maybe not so much. For those of us who tend to over-process, analyze and all to often remain in our head when we really should follow our heart… that piece of advice can be one of the first to go in one ear and out the other. Does this sound familiar?

  • All is going along swimmingly when this little negative thought about your date pops into your head. You’re in the first stages of infatuation, so, you brush it off and continue on. Until…
  • It pops up again. This time, it comes with a friend or two. Or perhaps it brings a “heavy” to make sure it gets your attention (a “heavy” in this case sounds something like — that thing he just did totally reminds me of my ex who cheated on me with my roommate. You know, the one comparison that is sure to immediately turn you into a hyper vigilant crazy chick.)
  • And then, like some crazed octo-mom, it starts hatching baby thoughts Continue reading

Your Standards May Be Too Low If…

Let me preface this post by saying that I think everyone has value. That being said, some relationships or matches are better or worse than others.  If you’ve had a rash of bad dates lately or feel like you’re spinning your wheels in the dating game… the solution could be something as simple as realizing that you’re aiming too low. Continue reading

Quick Tip on Compliments

Quick Tip for the weekend: When complimenting your date… make sure to say something personal as opposed to general. When you make the compliment personal, you tell your date that you really notice them and aren’t just going through the motions of being a polite date.

Example: “You are a great date/conversationalist.” vs. “I had a great time/evening.”

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What Exactly Should Be Kept Private?

It’s incredibly important to know the limits of what’s okay to share and what’s not okay to share outside of your relationship.

This topic hit my radar when I heard a girl downloading all these intimate details to another girl over lunch the other day. You would not BELIEVE the minutia that this girl went into. That poor guy would be mortified to know that her (I’m presuming) best friend now knew the size of things she probably shouldn’t and exactly what he said to her best friend before he left that night. I’m thinking he would feel a bit violated, and I think he’d be right.

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Are You Sabotaging Romance by Waiting for It?

My favorite question to ask any happily coupled person? How did you meet?

Ever since the seeing the opening and closing montages in “When Harry Met Sally,” I’ve been fascinated by people’s love stories. And where better to start than at the very beginning? The fateful first meeting. Perhaps it’s the romantic in me who wants to know more about the endless possibilities of love or the practical single looking for new ways to meet my Mr. Right. Whatever the reason, the stories have just been getting better and better in the past few weeks. Continue reading