I COULD write a Valentine’s Day post about how to impress your girl or find a great guy. I could. But I have the feeling that there are P-L-E-N-T-Y of posts out there covering that material. So I won’t. Instead, I’m re-posting my favorite about why I think you men are so great and that I’m glad you’re around…
I don’t feel that I may speak for all women, but I can speak for myself and share what I love about certain men… for my long time blog readers, I’ve added a few new notes of appreciation…
I love a man who knows and lives in integrity. Means what he says, is who he is and inspires that kind of trust you feel safe leaning into.
I love a man who puts his faith in God first…not in a judgmental or limiting kind of way…but in that open-hearted, joyful and inclusive walk with God that inspires your own faith to grow kind of way.
I love men who aren’t afraid to be silly or laugh at “non-manly” things. Something about being surprised by someone’s laughter just adds a certain richness to life.
I love men who are comfortable in their own manly skin. Men who focus on building others up and bringing joy and support to the people they adore. Men who celebrate a woman’s femininity and beauty and who see it as a gift God gave women to share with others. Men who want to pursue and cherish a strong, smart, passionate and emotionally healthy woman…a woman like me! *grin*
I adore a guy who is smart! Smart in that witty, engaging, verbally gifted kind of way. That makes me weak in the knees.
I love a man who faces down adversity like the proverbial western gun-slinger. Just stares it in the eyes and figures out how to beat that adversity into submission. I’m also a fan of the zen approach of just flowing around the issue like water. I guess I just really admire and feel at peace knowing that he’s not going to freak out and fall apart when something goes wrong.
I love men who know to look beyond the outward package to what is beneath. A guy who sees my humor or intelligence or spirituality as the thing to brag about to their guy friends…that guy I’ll hold onto.
I love men who know how to genuinely compliment me and aren’t afraid to do so even when it makes me blush.
I love men who open doors, pursue a woman they are interested in, walk on the street side of a sidewalk, show up when they say they will, say they’ll call and actually call, believe in chivalry and notice little things that need doing and do them!
I am impressed by those of you men who can cook. *hats off*
I find voracious readers, guitar players and bubble bath makers entirely too sexy.
I admire married/taken men who don’t even LOOK at other women.
I like the guys who drive a little fast and still hold my hand in between shifting.
I love a guy who can help me with something heavy, messy or just generally gross. I like being a girl.
I love men who like to play AND be responsible. Men who like to plan out a great trip or show up unexpectedly for a spontaneous cup of coffee.
I love a man who will sing along to his favorite tunes and not worry about whether or not his voice is “good enough.” If your voice is REALLY bad… that’s why the volume button was invented. 
I love a guy who knows how to limit his video game/sports/TV/whatever addiction to a manageable distraction.
I love a man with shoulders broader than mine, with enough height that I don’t tower in my heels, deep voices, manly hands, eyes that smile, one of those huggers who really HUG you!
I love it when a man notices my efforts to look good… from painted toenails to wearing his favorite color.
I love the way a creative man’s eyes see the world. I love the way a finance guy is fascinated with trends and cycles. I love the way an entrepreneur views risk and reward. I love the way a handy guy takes pride in the process. I love the way a business man’s mind solves a problem. I love the way a sales guy figures out how to match a service or product to need. I love the way the teacher guy wants to change the world… one mind at a time.
I’m sure I’ll think of more things that I love about men, but for now this is just to let you guys know how appreciated you are. And p.s. I don’t personally need all of these things in one man… these are just qualities I’ve seen that I appreciate. *grin*
p.p.s. yes, I know there are more I’s in this post that you ever see from me… but it’s just that kind of post. One that I appreciate. (all I’s intended)
Nice to see an uplifting post by a woman about men. It’s an indication that the author is a strong, smart, passionate, and emotionally healthy woman
awww — roger, you do know how to say the sweetest things.
That was so beautiful. We share so much in common with our love of men.
Hey Pat, no offense taken. I write about other things during my day job. This is a personal blog about dating, so it’s likely to have even more writing about relationships in the future. *grin* Thanks!
I certainly don’t speak for all men – as I hope I’m unique in my own right, but your post inspired me to think about what I like/love about women – so here it goes…
I love woman who are confident in themselves, in such a way that they can be engaging in any situation, whether it be a boardroom, a bedroom or a playroom.
I love woman who don’t look like every other woman found in magazines, TV, movies, etc. Imperfection and uniqueness are memorable. Brooke Shields is beautiful, but forgetable.
I love woman who have curves! Tracing the curves of their hips with my fingers is a gentle delight I’ll never tire of.
I love women who speak their mind and aren’t afraid of locker-room language.
I love women who can laugh at themselves and get me to do the same thing.
I love women who drink beer right out of the bottle.
I love women who like to sweat – whether at the gym, on the field – or in a 90 degree tent.
I love women who can laugh out loud.
I love women who understand the being a Mommy is the greatest gift of all.
I love women who kiss with passion and reckless abandon.
I love women who know the difference between love and sex – and explore them both.
I love women who don’t need me, but want me.
I love women who can kick my ass in tennis.
I love women who aren’t afreaid to cheer me on when I’m a weekend warrior.
I love women who drive their cars with confidence and a little aggression.
I love women who don’t expect me to hold the door for them, but appreciate it when I do.
I love women who smile a litle smile whenever they see me.
I love women want to try new things.
I love women who talk to strangers.
I love women who don’t mind being alone.
And that’s all I have time for.
Jeff,
My friends want to know who and where you are so they can line up to date you.
LOL
Check. What number am I?
Jeff!….”Tracing the curves of their hips wtih my finger tips, is a gentle delight,”……If I may rewrite that, “Tracing the curves of their hips with my finger tips, is LUXURIOUS.”…..
this is probably one of my favourite posts of yours
*super secret* one of my fav’s too
Ok, now I’M weak in the knees…
Great stuff.
awwww… thanks Eric
Thanks for the V-Day love Kelli and Jeff. Sniff…
awww… hope you had a good V-Day…
I agree, the best Valentine’s Day post I’ve read all week.
And my, my, isn’t Jeff just lovely? haha
thanks
I found that last year I just kind of threw a post at V-Day out of a dating blogger sense of obligation so this year, I went with a different approach!
Read the post before. Great Re-post!
thanks CE — I seem to want to repost it around major holidays — I wonder why that is?
I just discovered your blog. I love it. All the things you said about men are true. I think I especially liked the one about the different types of men: creative, finance, teacher, etc. because a man’s profession really helps explain a part of who they are and how they approach life.
I think when it comes down to it, confidence and embracing who you are is the key to succeeding in life–in all your relationships, whether romantic or not. I have always said that if you genuinely believe you are great, other people will too. I wish everyone had the courage to embrace who they are and run with it…run WILD with it.
By the way, as a comment to Jeff:
I appreciate your post about women. That is the kind of person I think most women should be…and I applaud “locker-room language.” I agree.
I love that — run WILD with it! Absolutely agree with you 110%
Thanks for the comment and welcome to the community
Curious — do you think that women’s professions equally explain about our approach to life as well?
Completely. I think it is telling for both men and women. You have to have certain traits or passions in life, to be in different profession.
I agree as well — and it makes me feel badly for people stuck in jobs they hate
ditto
Thank you for this. It brought a smile to my face.
Cheers!
so glad to bring a smile
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