Monthly Archives: February 2010

Three Steps To Winning a Woman’s Heart

Posted on February 25, 2010 | Leave a comment

Dear Loyal Guy Readers,

I know. Women are confusing. What works for one girl fails horribly with the next and that dang mind-reading expectation… what’s that all about anyway? Well, I can’t help you with the minutia that changes between the blonde you took out last night who thought you were charming and the brunette you’re still trying to mend fences with from last week. But I CAN help you with understanding how to make most women happy. Any woman who does not respond to the following three displays of male interest is either crazy (in which case, exit stage left,) just isn’t that into you OR you totalled the relationship already (in which case, nothing I say is going to help.)

Only three things to remember: Continue reading →

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Fact or Hypothesis: Do your friends tell you the truth about dating?

Posted on February 24, 2010 | 10 Comments

I have great friends. I’ve mentioned it before on here… just a few times. But my great friends have one glaring blind spot. They love me.

Before you wonder why in the world that would be a bad thing, let me explain…. Continue reading →

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A Captive Audience Can Lead to Great Conversation

Posted on February 23, 2010 | 3 Comments

Retreat weekends. The kind of weekends where girls and guys hope they might get to snuggle by the fire with a new love interest. Where shoes get dirty from lawn games, your inner teenager is channeled and derrieres get sore after extended periods of listening to speakers. A magical time away from reality where you forget that sleep, healthy food and solo time are essential for the soul. Ahhh retreats.

In case you haven’t figured it out, I went on a retreat last weekend. Being new to town, I decided to toss myself in the deep end Continue reading →

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Buying Into the Fairy Tale Romance

Posted on February 18, 2010 | 2 Comments

In the early 1930′s, someone in Charlie Chaplin’s Hollywood entourage figured out the formula for getting women and men to come see the same story play out time and again… just with different actors. Disney decided to animate the formula and indoctrinate children into the myth a few decades later… Beauty and the Beast, The Little Mermaid, Lady and the Tramp, Pocahontas, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella… need I go on? The “romantic comedy or dramedy.” In its purest form, it’s a simple formula. Boy+Girl/Meet-Lose-Get.

Despite knowing that movies are not reality, there are a LOT of daters out there who continue to count on the Hollywood version of Boy+Girl in their own lives. Perhaps it’s Continue reading →

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What I Love About Men

Posted on February 11, 2010 | 27 Comments

I COULD write a Valentine’s Day post about how to impress your girl or find a great guy. I could. But I have the feeling that there are P-L-E-N-T-Y of posts out there covering that material. So I won’t. Instead, I’m re-posting my favorite about why I think you men are so great and that I’m glad you’re around…

I don’t feel that I may speak for all women, but I can speak for myself and share what I love about certain men… for my long time blog readers, I’ve added a few new notes of appreciation… Continue reading →

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New Dating Rule: When you break up, throw out the memorabilia too!

Posted on February 9, 2010 | 18 Comments

My big news? I am in the process of moving. Not just moving houses or neighborhoods, but states. I’m leaving the great state of Texas for my home state of California and now am pictured prominently under the dictionary definition of a “Damn Texifornian.” (What can a girl do? I like big, sunny states with interesting people and beau-hunky men.)

I’ve lived the nomadic life for the past year. On the road with two suitcases and 7 pairs of shoes. My dog joined me in September for a 3 month stint in Seattle (lovely) before driving down to San Francisco to find our new home all ready and waiting, complete with a crazy downstairs neighbor who makes a big deal out of things like us tiptoeing around shoeless and Dylan not doing his “jobbie” on “her” tree. Adjustments. It’s all in the adjustments. But crazy person aside, I love my new home in SF. I have a great flat-mate, live in the most beautiful place ever and am a whopping one and a half blocks from an off leash dog park. Life is good. And so is the dating.

But, reality had to come to roost at some point. Continue reading →

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Are You Cheap or Frugal?

Posted on February 3, 2010 | 7 Comments

Ahhh, economic woes. Budgetary cutbacks really bring out the penny pincher in us all. Especially when it comes to the old social life. But how do you know whether your date thinks you’re cheap or frugal? A few simple distinctions may help you stay on the more gracious side of the wallet…

  1. A cheap date values the dollar over a person. A frugal date values the person over the dollar.
  2. Cheap dates are inconsiderate. They skimp on the tip or request that their date order something less expensive. A frugal date takes you somewhere where they know they can afford the bill without cheating the servers or anxiously monitoring your food selection.
  3. Cheap dates think Continue reading →

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Are You Hungry?

Posted on February 2, 2010 | 3 Comments

I have a confession to make. I was reading along in righteous indignation on this post about a serial meal ticket hunter whose game plan was to raise the ante from drinks to dinner for every date when I realized… wait a minute, I think I might have inadvertently done this myself a time or two. On those nights when I tried to fit in one too many things between work, work out and date — leading me to choose between shower or snack. I’ve definitely been guilty of showing up hungry (but clean) to what was only defined as a “drinks” date. Continue reading →

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