Comments on: How to Date with Extra Weight: Do you have a Fattitude?

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Links I Like Vol. 1 : Cheap Date Ideas! — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 20:44:10 +0000

[...] How to Date with Extra Weight: Do you have a “Fattitude”? by Kelli Lawless (one of my favourite dating bloggers) at Dating and Mating in America [...]

By: kellilawless

kellilawless — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:28:23 +0000

I’ve heard that P90X routine is a killer… good to know that all that hard work does pay off

By: kellilawless

kellilawless — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:27:17 +0000

hey David! Thanks for the comment and yes, Jesus DOES love me *grin*

I’m actually of the opinion that there is no way to be perfect this side of Heaven… I think we’re a work in progress the whole way up to the Pearlies. And that includes emotionally. BUT — we can be healthier emotionally and that’s the whole reason I write what I write since there is a lot of truth to emotional wellness being a hallmark for successful relationships.

By: kellilawless

kellilawless — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:21:27 +0000

thanks

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Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:25:46 +0000

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By: celebs gossip

celebs gossip — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:45:01 +0000

wow great article..love your style…I’ll try to keep an eye on your articles from now on

By: david

david — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:44:22 +0000

thanks 4 ur post! ^^ i really enjoy ur post…especially w/ the quote “You do not have to be perfect to find the perfect person for you.”

however, may i add that “u dont have to be perfect PHYSICALLY” to be better…since we need to be emotionally healthy to find that perfect person….^^ and only 2 emotionally and physically healthy ppl can LAST their wonderful relationship. ^^

Jesus loves u!
david

By: Will @ Cheap Date Ideas

Will @ Cheap Date Ideas — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 01:19:45 +0000

So much to tackle here. Kelli, you always write about interesting stuff and the content is killer as usual

To me, I’d say that the “Fat Attitude” conditioning stems from deeply ingrained (disempowering) beliefs that were learned and societal conditioning.

It’s our responsibility to lead a healthy lifestyle and take on a healthy attitude.

Speaking from experience, I was never really “fat” – I got “plump” from heavy drinking, smoking and lack of exercise.

I’d say the greatest thing I’ve discovered were running (to start things off) and then the home workout program P90X.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s TOUGH as hell, but you get what you put in and the fruits of your labour will show.

All too often we’re too impatient to look at the long term vision for how we want to shape our health and our bodies.

Start with the small, and incrementally challenge yourself, pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and on top of eating healthy and getting enough rest.

Anyway, here’s a link to my fitness progress (although I’ve slumped for the last month due to a being sick ) to show that destroying a “Fattitude” can be done – http://ow.ly/z1IT

By: kellilawless

kellilawless — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 20:03:52 +0000

Eric,
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head by saying healthy and thin are not the same thing. I wish more Americans understood that. Unfortunately, we don’t get much cultural conditioning otherwise. Also — I freaked when the scale went up after I started working out with a new trainer until she explained the whole muscle weight is a real deal thing. Apparently I build it like there’s no tomorrow so I really had to let go of what the number on the scale said.

By: Eric

Eric — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:55:10 +0000

Kelli,
The big thing that strikes me is: I think healthy is attractive, but “healthy” and “thin” are not the same thing. I know a number of women who are not the “ideal” weight, but are in good shape. (“Muscle tone, fitness and a positive attitude will overcome a multitude of extra pounds”). Keeping in mind also that if you are living and dying by the scale every day, the numbers may not be encouraging as the fitness level increases(gaining muscle, which is heavier than fat.). Good reason to step away from the scale and go more by how you feel and your clothes are fitting than a number on the scale.