Comments on: Vulnerability: How and When Do You Share?

By: Maybe I Really Shouldn’t Have Said That… « Dating and Mating in America

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:58:29 +0000

[...] Over share. In the beginning of a relationship, it’s tempting to just throw-up your issues all over the other person. And if they are lusting after you with the same intensity, they may even overlook some of the red flags you just tossed on the field. At least, they will until they won’t. The day will come when the lust wears off and they remember all the stuff you shared when you hardly knew each other and really start to wonder. There is an art to sharing in time with the relationship. Think of it like a dance or a really good football match… there is a time and place for every move and when done in the right sequence, you end up with something beautiful. But if you injure their quarterback with a personal foul or spin her so hard she hits the deck… it just won’t be as much fun. If you’re needing a few more pointers on this topic… check out this post. [...]

By: Will

Will — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 20:42:59 +0000

In the past yes when I didn’t really “know myself”

Nowadays, I’m a little too open – haha.

I feel it definitely kills the “mystery” or “intrigue” that some women crave.. so that would be the only reason I’d deliberately pull back.. but that wouldn’t be authentic

By: kellilawless

kellilawless — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 19:34:43 +0000

Will — Thanks and I like your vulnerability approach
Have you ever felt like you shared something you couldn’t really emotionally afford to because you were open upfront?

By: Will

Will — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 19:07:50 +0000

Hiya Kelli,

I’ve been following you for quite some time
Anyway, time for me to come out of the woodwork and weigh my two cents on this.

I’m pretty open right off the bat – it allows me to build some sort of emotional connection.

If nothing is reciprocated (or hardly), I’d pull back and gently unravel the more she opens up.

It’s a more intuitive approach, but works for me.