You know what drives me nuts? Justifying obvious red flags because “chemistry” has turned your brain into cat food.
I know, I know… we ALL do it. Everything from ignoring that you’ve never actually spent time with the person when they are sober to the odd feeling that they aren’t *really* telling the truth about what they want in a relationship… it’s all been bypassed because “she’s hot” or “he’s a good kisser” or some other variation of “chemistry hijacked my brain and I’m along for the ride.”
I’m no exception to this rule. I think that may be why I stopped keeping a journal for several years. I just couldn’t stand reading past entries and seeing the *exact* same pattern work itself out over and over and over… In part thanks to writing this blog, (in other large parts thanks to the circle of friends who have permission to “tie me to a tree” *not as kinky as it may sound*) I’ve not only started keeping a journal again but the journal content actually broke from pattern this year. Fingers crossed that the new awareness holds and the late 30′s hold the key to ushering in my new relationship era.
One of my friends just started a “second verse, same as the first” relationship with a hot, young thing and all I can do is sigh and hope it’s over soon without too much collateral damage. The funny thing… he said to me this weekend, “I know she’s just like [insert name of last hot, young thing] but I just can’t seem to help myself.” He’s 43. Successful. Great guy. Hopeless about falling for the wrong girls. I’ve known him for many years and this is at least the 7th or 8th “hot, young thing” I’ve met.
Some of us just seem to make the same mistakes over and over. Insert a different name and you can press the mute button while mouthing along with the dialogue. So, why do we do it? What is it in the make up of the human brain that takes such serious awareness and willpower to overcome chemistry and attraction?
