I’ve heard some interesting assertions recently. One of them went something like this… “Well, I don’t want to just leave the poor guy hanging, so I tend to send him a text to let him know that it’s over and I don’t want to see him again.”
You can see my full opinion on how to use technology to get you ahead in the dating world here.
Posted in Breaking up, communication, Dating, Etiquette, poll
Tagged communication, Dating, poll, texting
According to a survey released by ING Direct on Monday, (don’t ask me why an international bank would be asking questions about romance on a survey… but anyway…) this recession is breaking American hearts. Apparently, we are weathering the storm less gracefully than our romantically inclined counterparts in other countries.
Survey says Continue reading
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Tagged America, Breaking up, business journal, Canada, Culture, dealbreakers, economy, France, Germany, gratitude, Humor, ING survey, life, love, marriage, men, online dating, relationships, stress, women
Thanks to the 100+ temps, I decided that it was a movie marathon kind of weekend. A little behind on my chick flick quota for the summer, I pushed “The Ugly Truth” and “The Proposal” into one weekend. I’ll admit, I liked one much, much better than the other, but I thought they both brought up an interesting question… at least from the “Dating in America” P.O.V…
Is your reality creating art or art creating your reality? Continue reading
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Tagged America, art, attraction, chick flick, commitment-phobes, Culture, Hollywood, life, love, men, pattern, reality, relationships, romantic comedy, The Proposal, The Ugly Truth, women
I’m not sure about you, but there are times when I really wish I could buy a GPS for dating and relationships. A GPS with the voice of someone like Sean Connery or Pierce Brosnan so when it said something like, “I TOLD you to turn left to avoid that super-sized manhole” it wouldn’t seem quite so irritating. (Something about an accent from the UK just adds a warm fuzzy to the punctuation of an American girl’s day.)
I can get a GPS of sorts from various friends, past experience and circumstances… but the guidance feels something like Continue reading
A new docu is in the works about single women in their 30′s and the challenges they face finding love and living life in a reality that looks nothing like their childhood dreams of handsome Prince, white-picket-fenced castle, ladies who lunch and 2.5 kids.
Personally… I’ll check this docu out. For research and personal interest.
But I was wondering… how many of us ARE living our “happily ever after?” Did you get to a point in your life and realize… this is NOT what I signed up for or are you one of the happy few in this world who enjoy the journey no matter where it takes you?
I’ve seen a lot of guys and girls (especially this year) facing the reality that their childhood fantasies may never become reality. So my Friday Poll question is…
I’m leaving a comment since none of those answers fit my life!
Cheating, cheating cheating. Why do people do it?
Gary Neuman talks about why men cheat in his book “The Truth About Cheating and What You Can Do to Prevent it.” I’ll admit that I heard about him first when I was looking around www.Oprah.com several months back but haven’t been able to get his assertions on the topic out of my head.
At first I got all bristly at the thought that women should be expected to do something to prevent cheating men… like it was the woman’s fault, but he quickly addresses that issue by clearly stating that a spouse can not control the actions of their mate nor take on responsibility for what their mate does. He then says that according to the men he studied, the number one reason men cheat is due to Continue reading
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Tagged character, cheaters, cheating, communication, emotional connection, Gary Neuman, life, love, marriage, men, Oprah, relationships, sex, women
Managing first impressions when you meet your date’s “friends” can be a challenge even for the most socially astute. I’ve never been an advocate of gamesmanship in the dating pool, but there are times and places for a bit less boister and a lot more tact. It’s a good idea to “be yourself” unless “yourself” is a boorish, fight-picking, butt-grabbing, inappropriate flirt. If that is the case, I’d suggest being the least amount of “yourself” as you can reasonably pull off.
Here are a few tips to catapult you to the positive side of the friend approval meter: Continue reading
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Tagged acceptance, advice, dating advice, dealbreakers, friends, insecurity, life, love, men, relationships, women
“You deserve someone better than me.”
As break up lines go, this one, in my opinion, tops the lame list. If you were all that bad, I wouldn’t be into you in the first place and if you are being a jerk, that really has nothing to do with me and everything to do with you deciding whether or not you want to act like a jerk. Just admit that I may be great, but I’m not your “One.”
Happily, I can’t exactly remember the last time I heard this breakup line… (ok, so I can. But it’s been a while!) and I’m relieved to report that my life is not the inspiration for today’s poll.
I love Jeff Mac’s direct approach to deciphering the truth behind every break up line. As he says on his blog Manslations;
Anytime someone dumps you and gives you ANY reason other than, “I’d rather be apart from you than with you,” they aren’t being honest. (And thank god — who wants to hear THAT when you’re getting dumped, right?)
So, what’s the worst breakup line you’ve ever heard?
After interviewing so many people, I’ve heard stories about how getting back together was the best decision they ever made or the worst train wreck in history that ended with someone in jail. And everything in between. I suppose it really comes down to the two people involved and the motives at the heart of it all to figure out if its going to stick or not. But what do you do when that person is you and your ex is trying to get you back?
If you’ve been avidly following my blog, you may have seen my post about being friends with the ex. Its possible to have a great friendship, but what happens when your ex starts breaking the “friends only” rules? Here you are, in a good relationship/new relationship/exciting relationship/recovered your mojo phase/etc and up pops your ex with talk about how great the two of you were together, what if you tried one more time… Continue reading
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Tagged advice, Breaking up, cheating, commitment, communication, Dating, dating advice, dealbreakers, exes, honesty, life, love, lust, marriage, men, pain, relationships, respect, self esteem, the ex, wisdom, women
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