Comments on: How to date an Entrepreneur http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/ A commentary on dating, culture and expectations. Wed, 28 Dec 2011 19:24:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: mkrchnak http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-4104 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 19:24:02 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-4104 I love dating workaholics as I am one. Non-ers don’t get it. Cute read for our non-ers.

]]> By: Joe http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3582 Tue, 05 Jul 2011 04:22:30 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3582 Thanks for this post, I just read to my fiancee and she was like “sounds about right” She
is entreprenural also so i guess it works both ways :)

]]> By: kellilawless http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3444 Mon, 25 Apr 2011 20:04:14 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3444 I’m not sure you can ever trust in someone’s potential to make money or be a provider. We don’t really have any “sure things” in capitalist America. Both entrepreneurs and 9 to 5ers and everything in between are subject to becoming unemployed or facing hardship. For me, it’s really about how they not only get thru those times but how they handle the times of plenty as well. You can trust in their work ethic or priorities. You can trust in their character or dreams. You can look at what makes them tick and how passionately they pursue their calling. And if you feel loved even in the waiting time… then perhaps it is a match that will work out for everyone… whether or not your entrepreneur ever “makes it big” or even if they find themselves having to go get a full time job working for someone else in order to help provide for their responsibilities and family… Look at your relationship and see if it works for you. Whether or not that bathroom renovation ever takes place.

]]> By: Smiles4you http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3441 Mon, 25 Apr 2011 19:10:29 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3441 Is there a point where ‘potential’ feels safer?
Potential to make money.
Potential to have the money to finish renovations on his house.. aka that bathroom wall missing.
Potential to be a solid provider if we have kids and I’m on mat leave?
Yes, I’m the ‘steady and steadfast, working for others to avoid risk’ kind of person. He is great, but I’ve heard of so many people losing it all or struggling all the time. Relationships are hard enough without the extra pressure wondering when this will take off? How can you trust someone else’s ‘potential’?

]]> By: kellilawless http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3335 Wed, 02 Mar 2011 00:40:36 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3335 I wish I could give you a magic wand to wave that would help clear his bandwidth to help meet your needs. Unfortunately, I am betting that he is in a “building the kingdom” mode right now and probably can’t even imagine shifting any of his resources… mental, financial, emotional or otherwise… towards the goal of engagement, marriage and family. If you haven’t already, try to find time to talk about a timeline. No ultimatums, more along the lines of… I want to understand your thought process and feelings behind our future together. Do you have a time line in mind for engagement, marriage and family? (You may also need to separate the 3 ideas since he may have them all lumped together when really it’s the … let’s say… wedding planning that makes him not even want to consider that path. But he is fine with engagement or kids or even elopement. Does that makes sense? Try to pin point where the pain point is for him.) One thing you have to be strong enough to do is to walk away if his ideas don’t match up with what you know you need. ie… he’s thinking marriage and kids in 10 years. You are 32. You’re thinking 42 is a bit ripe on the vine to be looking at the kids option. You know kids are a must have for you. This might not be the right guy for you.

This may sound like you’re the one who needs to do all the compromising and in a way… it is up to you. He’s told you his bottom line. So you can either accept it, ask him if he’s willing to find a middle ground with you or decide that you want a different relationship.

Another resource to check out… Alison Armstrong’s materials on the Amazing Development of Men. She discusses the “stages” men go thru as they mature and what each stage is like for the guy as he is living it and how girls can better understand it. It sounds like your guy is dead in the middle of “middle prince” which can be challenging but really rewarding if you can hang in there and you are feeling loved enough that you believe this is, in fact, a good match for you both.

]]> By: Chelsea http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3333 Tue, 01 Mar 2011 20:54:16 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3333 Thank you so much for writing this article. I’ve been struggling with my entrepreneur love, and this article made me have a better understanding, greater appreciation, and resulted in a really nice weekend together. My love always says that he doesn’t have much “capacity” or “bandwidth” for relationship stuff, but we are in love and trying the best we can. A big issue is that I eventually want marriage and kids, and because he runs three companies, 1 of which is a Africa-wide start up, he says that those things are not even on his radar right now and doesn’t ave capacity to even think of engagement….. Any more advice? I wish u would write more articles on this topic. Thanks!!

]]> By: How to Date An Entrepreneur « Blog for EO|DC http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-3307 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 12:56:44 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-3307 [...] in the spirit of the Valentine’s holiday. It was originally posted in 2008 on a blog called Dating and Mating in America written by Kelli Lawless. I wish I had been able to point my husband to this site when we started [...]

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]]> By: Modica http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-1656 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 23:37:56 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-1656 Nice idea! keep up the good work. Beatles

]]> By: cruzer13 http://datingandmatinginamerica.com/2008/12/30/how-to-date-an-entrepreneur/#comment-1654 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 06:45:07 +0000 http://klawless.wordpress.com/?p=696#comment-1654 You make a persuasive argument for your case. Good work!

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