In the meantime, if you have any spiritual leanings, I’d encourage you to get involved in your local community since I’m betting you got a bit isolated with the move and then trying to handle being in a relationship with a sex addict. Sometimes it helps merely to have supportive, caring and healthy people around you again. Remember — you didn’t cause this and there is no reason for you to be embarrassed. If you have close friends that you’ve perhaps been hiding some of this information from, let them support you in getting and staying out of the relationship and reminding you why you are totally lovable all on your own. No other women needed.

Hang in there and I’ll keep you in my prayers!
Kelli

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Hi Kelly. I was searching trough the net about addiction when your article come along. My life come down to a point where I’m confused and lost. I’m from Europe and being a beautiful woman I always had mens attention. It is not easy to deal with it on every day basic so I always been careful with who to be with. I loved to be in long term relationship and my longest one was 12 years. I end up marrying but he become more jealous and finally abusive. I end up living the country looking for myself and what I want. I dated guys but no love was coming from me. They all fall in love and my relationships ended cause I didn’t wanted to hurt them not giving 100%. Most of them tried to contact me wishing that I’m still alone and try again. I thought I’m to careful with who I am so I wanted to try to be with somebody only for sex. It didn’t worked out. The guy fall in love. I feel like I’m cursed being beautiful! When i love somebody, they get jealous and abusive and when i don’t love somebody they want to put a ring on my finger in a short period of time. I haven’t been in a lot of relationships. For me a relationship is simple. If you love somebody then give respect, support and be there a 100%. When i work I’m serious , when i party I’m fun. I love to take care of myself , i love to cook, stay clean, do outdoor activities(fishing, camping, beach …) and I love sex. When i meet my boyfriend , it was New Years Eve. All my friends were telling me to loosen up and have fun. So i did. Me and my actual boyfriend end up together. Send then we never been apart. We both had fun in the beginning. He moved in with me fast and I end up supporting him. He was going true a bad period of time the same as I was. His ex was still contacting him and he was lying to her and me to in the same time. We talked about it and he told everybody about me including his ex (with who he had a child ). The problem was that if his ex found out he is with somebody else she would use they child against him , what actually happened . A long time before I met him, he use to be on drugs after being in USMC. He stopped the drugs and started drinking heavily what wasn’t something so unusual between his friends. When I was at parties , I was drinking as well. But for him, party or not, drinking was present. He started to be very jealous and abusive. I found out that he is on dating sites and watch pornography. With porn I was ok in the beginning , I thought it is normal . I even took him to a strip club when he told me that he never been there with a girl. Like I said , I’m an open minded. We had a good time and we laugh about it for a long time. With the dating sites I had a problem. Our sex life went down heal. 2 times a month….! He come up with all excuses, blaming on everyone, everything , especially me. I become pregnant and we have a beautiful son. After 2-3 months I looked like I never had a child. Everyone asked me what is my secret . Well working out and stay sexy for your loved one . It is enough???? When I reached my end if my patients, I told him I’m done and I’m living. His family adores me and supports me. Recently he stopped drinking and he is going in AA meetings. He hasn’t drink for almost 2 months. For his respect I haven’t either . The porn is still present and our sex life is still down. I thought it is something wrong with me. But I’m still sexy and beautiful as before. I don’t want my child to grow up without a father and I want to fix what can be fixed between us. Also I believe that I can be beautiful and sexy all day long,I can be not his type . He may still looking for “the one ” or just be curious …. All I know, let me go or stay and be honest snd